Einen Artikel des Deutschen Instituts für Jugend und Gesellschaft findet ihr hier.
Zeugnis von Inessa (auf Russisch) hier.
Janelle Hallman-Burleson, Weibliche Homosexualität - Ursachen und Symptome
Janelle Hallman-Burlson, Weibliche Homosexualität - Diagnostik und Therapieansatz
Janelle Hallman-Burlson, Weibliche Homosexualität - Schritte der Veränderung
Linda und Joseph Nicolosi, Was ist Lesbianismus
Andria Sigler-Smalz, Die lesbische Frau verstehen, die Hilfe sucht
Studie zur Frage der Veränderbarkeit einer homosexuellen Orientierung
(Quelle bzw. empfohlenes Material: u.a.: Joe Dallas. Für mehr Infos, klicke hier: Copyright)
FLIGHT FROM PAIN:
JOURNEY INTO AND OUT OF TRANSEXUALITY THROUGH CHRIST
Bio: Susan T. is the youngest of three girls born and still resides in the eastside of Vancouver, British Columbia. Gender Identity Confusion began when she was a toddler, continuing even when she
made Jesus Saviour of her life in 1980. In the early 90's she enrolled in Another Chance Ministries (Marjorie Hopper - Director) as Steve. During this programme, Jesus became Lord of her life and with the power of God beside her began her healing journey. Susan was a pastor for a short time, volunteered in various committees such as Another Chance Ministries. She has been helping in many
organizations such as 100 Huntley Street, Vancouver Challenge (Teen Challenge), and various street missions. She is an itinerate evangelist (Phillippines, Indonesia, Canada, Caribbean) and itinerate
After taking a sabbatical from ex-gay ministry she began being connected with Exodus Global Alliance in Canada and she is now being used by the Lord to show that though going through the journey to understand Gender Identity Confusion and walk in truth of who she is may come through overcoming some painful steps, it is worth it. And now walks in freedom.
I accepted the Lord as Saviour in July 1980 @ 16 yrs old. He knew where I was but He was waiting for me to see Him. Though born a girl, most of my childhood was filled with my mother implying that I was not a typical Japanese girl & didn't belong. I didn't like what girls were supposed to like, etc. This started my self identification as "I must be a boy" starting in toddler ages. Meanwhile there was always a nagging feeling that my father was missing out because he didn't have a son. The words I chose to embrace from my mother were, “if you were a boy,” etc. or “you're just like your father.” I tried
to ignore the words & feelings given from my mother.
When I was 5 our family, except for my dad, went on a trip to Japan from Canada.
At that time people who were in the plane’s boarding area could see their loved ones waiting for takeoff. I remember seeing my father hanging his head and looking so lonely. It was then that I decided that I was going to be the son he never had. I was sad to go but relieved too because there was some molestation happening. But the trip to Japan confirmed that I wasn't feminine. I did not fit in.
When we returned home to Canada, I kept getting worse because the Canadian families I was exposed to (next-door neighbours, TV, etc.) all regularly said “I love you” to each other but my family did not. I did not realize that in the Japanese culture they say I love you by providing for you, taking care of family members, etc. I didn’t
understand so I felt totally unloved by my real family. By the age of eight I came very close to stabbing myself a few times but, even though I was a Buddhist, I heard God say ``don`t do it.”
At age 10 (March 11, 1974), I was raped. At this point disassociation started occurring. While the rape was happening to me the sensation was akin to me going out of my body and the experience was happening to someone else. This started my coping
mechanism for flight from pain. I`m a boy -- all that ugly stuff happening to me is because of that body on the outside. As a result at the age of 12 I contemplated more heavily the thought of suicide. I remember I was in my bedroom, placed a knife to my stomach and just as I was about to plunge The Spirit spoke to me and said He loved me which made me stop.
When I was thirteen, CKVU (Channel 13) began airing soft-core porn (geared more for men with sexuality from a man`s perspective) after midnight, starting a 25 year habit for me. At this time I was aspiring to be a male rock singer like BTO and The Guess Who which led me to have long hair. Nobody suspected my problem because I didn`t look butch. My father and I started having physical fights (but we are pretty good father & daughter now). And my mother began blaming me for the problems between her and
Dad. I began to look into the Occult.
The Lord really protected me at this time – any relationships with women didn`t last when I told them I was becoming a male (straight or lesbian). On the other hand, men interested in me were all dedicated Christian boys but even during the date I was preoccupied
with finding them good Christian women because I saw me dating a male as being a homosexual and I wasn`t a homosexual.
During this time every rejection I felt, every time I wasn't included in group activities, every failure, etc. I accounted to being a failure as a female. I began internally calling myself Steve while still answering to Sue. I decided to be the male. I decided to pursue a normal family where I would be the husband to a normal wife with kids.
I pursued relationships with normal women but they were short-lived because I felt as a Christian I loved them too much to be deceptive (I told them I wasn't physically a male). The lesbians didn't want me because I told them I was pursuing a sex-change operation. The lesbians were all after me until I told them I was having the operation to become a man. The local lesbian (women's) club advised me that I could attend their meetings only until I had my operation. Also my Father in Heaven kept reminding me if I really loved these women I wouldn't lead them to do anything that would jeopardize their relationship with Him. So my love for these people was bitter-sweet cause deep down I knew He was saying truth.
After a while I notified my sisters and sought out my general practitioner. The doctor said she would approve the operation and that I needed to get further approval from a psychiatrist at a Gender Dysphoria Clinic. I had already been passing as a male for a
long time even without the hormones. (You had to be living as a male at that time for one year). My non-Christian friends were calling me Steve. I was a rock'n roll musician so having long hair was a norm.
During this time I started going to Christian Life Assembly. I wanted to stop the pain by becoming a male but I also didn't want to lose my relationship with the Lord. After seeing the doctor many times and getting ready to go to the clinic, the time for disclosure was at hand. We were in the chapel and I exclaimed to some of the congregation, “Don't call me Sue, call me Steve. Sue will be no more.” Thank God for a pastor who was growing in the Lord. He began speaking life to me. A conversation I remember is when I stated I felt inferior because I wasn't a pastor, he stated that he thought I had gone farther because I was the first Christian in my family. At this point
many of my friends in the church began to really minister to me.
Many of my guy friends took me aside and let me still be one of the guys but I'm sure they prayed for me every day. I got together with 3 guys and we prayed with each other.
My Christian friends also let me know about their own personal struggles so I didn't feel like they treated me as inferior or like a project. By their actions my friends began to instill in me a desire to know The Truth and to live in the Truth. The truth is always the
truth no matter how much we try to lie to ourselves. No matter how deceived we are in our gender we can never run away from what came out originally.
My prayer now became ‘Lord Change Me to who You want me to be.’ Either I believe that God will do it or I don't believe in God at all. Either God is Truth (and all His decisions) or He is a liar. My pastor who was humble enough to admit that his 12 pastor staff didn't have the resources to “fix” me referred me to Another Chance Ministries with Marjorie Hopper. Because she was also a struggler of trans-gender issues Marjorie knew better than to call me a lesbian. But I was perplexed as to why I was put in this ex-gay ministry when my being attracted to women was quite heterosexual because I thought of myself as a male. I was indignant when she insisted I join the woman's group instead of the men’s group. I kept wondering what I was doing there. But this was the hand of God.
My small group leader Ruth took the brunt of my “I don't belong in this women’s group” mentality and patiently started talking to me. Ruth never had lesbian issues but she ministered to me better than someone who had been in the lifestyle. She ministered God. As we went through the 32 week programme, she did not put me in a box but uniquely asked the Lord to speak to me. I stayed in the women's group. It would be another 3 years (I was a small group leader) when Marjorie associated me with the L word.
The road to Wholeness in Christ means a break from the flight from pain. When we receive Christ we are broken vessels. As we continue to grow in Him, He takes these broken pieces and makes an object for His pleasure as He heals the pieces. In order to
create the object the pieces have to be moved -- they have to submit to the Potter even if it means they go through the fire again. Most importantly they don't react in the same way they did before. As we desire the Lord to set us free we must realize that whatever
coping mechanisms we used for our suffering must be submitted to Christ. Continuous surrender. Wholeness in Christ means to give God the final say. He is the only One who can be our all in all. He has big shoulders and just as a raging wound may have to hurt
for awhile to properly heal The Lord is with us to walk us through but walking through is imperative. He may do things like corner us to uncomfortable situations to help us get set free.
This began the journey of discovering the lies I believed about myself, lies I believed about others, the damaging effect of labels, inner vows, the importance of understanding inter-cultural practices and communication between generations, the importance of
being a team player, that no business is new business (1st Cor. 10:13) – the thought that no one can minister to me because no one has gone through what I went through – is a lie.
BE PATIENT – BE WILLING TO CHANGE IN GOD'S TIME – NOT YOURS.
I am no longer a transsexual and have no desire to be a man. I am happy as the female I was born to be.
(Susan's testimony - used with permission).
My Jesus My Lord (Ex-Lesbian, USA)
Out of the Depths Ministry
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Powerful Christian Women
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"Hearts Restored" support group for women who are related, engaged or married to men who struggle with sexual unfaithfulness (i.e. pornography, affairs, homosexuality, etc.) call Brenda at 614-975-1948614-975-1948 for more info and meeting times.
Prof. Dr. Scott Hahn: Recommended Books for Women
* Aquilina, Mike. Love in the Little Things: Tales of Family Life. Cincinnati, OH: Saint Anthony Messenger Press and Franciscan Communications, 2007.
* _____. Take 5: On the Job Meditations with St. Ignatius. Huntington, IN: Our Sunday Visitor, 2008.
* _____. Praying in the Presence of Our Lord with St. Thomas Aquinas. Huntington, IN: Our Sunday Visitor, 2002.
* Bennett, Art, and Laraine Bennett. The Temperament God Gave You: The Classic Key to Knowing Yourself, Getting Along with Others, and Growing Closer to the Lord. Manchester, NH: Sophia Institute Press, 2005.
* Cavolina, Jane, and Matthew Bunson. All Shall Be Well: Hope and Inspiration from Great Catholic Thinkers. New York: Penguin Group (USA), 2004.
* Chaput, Chales Archbishop, O.F.M. Cap. Living the Catholic Faith: Rediscovering the Basics. Cincinatti, OH: Saint Anthony Messenger Press and Franciscan Communications, 2001.
* Hahn, Kimberly. Chosen and Cherished: Biblical Wisdom for Your Marriage. Life Nurturing Love Series. Servant Books, St. Anthony Messenger Press, 2007.
* _____. Graced and Gifted: Biblical Wisdom for the Homemakers Heart. Life Nurturing Love Series. Cincinnati, OH: Saint Anthony Messenger Press & Franciscan Communications, 2008.
* _____. Life Giving Love: Embracing Gods Beautiful Design for Marriage. Cincinnati, OH: Saint Anthony Messenger Press & Franciscan Communications, 2002.
* Hahn, Kimberly and Mary Hasson. Catholic Education: Homeward Bound. San Francisco, CA: Ignatius Press, 1996.
* Hahn, Scott. Ordinary Work, Extraordinary Grace: My Spiritual Journey in Opus Dei. New York: Doubleday, 2006.
* Hahn, Scott and Mike Aquilina. Living the Mysteries: A Guide for Unfinished Christians. Huntington, IN: Our Sunday Visitor Publishing, 2008.
* Healy, Mary. Men and Women are from Eden: A Study Guide to John Paul IIs Theology of the Body. Cincinnati, OH: Saint Anthony Messenger Press and Franciscan Communications, 2005.
* Kreeft, Peter. Back to Virtue: Traditional Moral Wisdom for Modern Moral Confusion. San Francisco, CA: Ignatius Press, 1992.
* Mugridge, Christine Anne. (ed.). The Gift of Femininity. Santa Rosa, CA: Hermitage Press, 2002.
* Pacwa, Mitch, Fr. Forgive Me Father For I am Frustrated. Cincinnati, OH: Servant Publications, Saint Anthony Messenger Press, 1997.
* _____. Catholics and the New Age. Cincinnati, OH: Saint Anthony Messenger Press & Franciscan Communcations, 1992.
* Pierlot, Holly. A Mothers Rule of Life: How to Bring Order to Your Home and Peace to Your Soul. Manchester, NH: Sophia Institute Press, 2004.
* Scanlan, Fr. Michael, T.O.R. What Does God Want? A Practical Guide to Making Decisions. Huntington, IN: Our Sunday Visitor, 1996.
* Scanlan, Fr. Michael, T.O.R and Jim Manney. The Truth About Trouble: How Hard Times Can Draw You Closer to God. Cincinnati, OH: Saint Anthony Messenger Press & Franciscan Communications, 2005.
* Scott, David. The Catholic Passion: Rediscovering the Power and Beauty of Faith. Chicago: Loyola Press, 2007.
* _____. Praying in the Presence of Our Lord with Dorothy Day. Huntington, IL: Our Sunday Visitor, 2002.
* _____. A Revolution of Love: The Meaning of Mother Teresa. Chicago: Loyola Press, 2005.
* Waldstein, Michael. (Trans.). Man and Woman He Created Them: A Theology of the Body. Boston: Pauline Books & Media, 2006.