|Posted on January 2, 2015 at 12:30 AM|
„I only object to homosexual behavior, not the person behind it!“ – how many times have said things like that? Sounds good, right? Well, like every other distorted view it has a core truth – else there would be nothing to distort. Of course, as Christians we are against EVERY inappropriate sexual thing outside a monogamous, lifelong marriage between a man and a woman – be it in thought or deed.
However, think about it: What would you say if someone told you that as a heterosexual man – you as a person are alright as long as you don’t have sex with a girl. What nonsense! How on God’s good earth did we ever come up with the thought that you can separate the two? As human beings, we are an inseparable unity of body, psyche and soul. Our actions cannot be separated from the rest of our personality. This is why Jesus kept on telling us that it is not only our wrong actions that get us in trouble, but the thought/heart behind them.
So if you see someone with same-sex attractions, maybe an effeminate man or a masculine looking woman, stop saying things like that. Our actions are just an expression of something bigger in us. Likewise simply to stop doing something is not recovery, it is avoidance and won’t get you far as the needs and hurts behind your lustful thoughts and actions are still there and are building up till the whole thing explodes.
To cut it short: If we want to be of some real help for men and women with same-sex attractions, we need to take a closer look, to listen and to love. What is going on in that person? Maybe he/she is dealing with some past hurt or has unmet emotional or relation issues? How can we substitute that or even be part of the healing process?
You know what, people with same-sex attractions have heard so many shallow-sounding Christian commonplaces they are fed up with them. It’s not for nothing that the old prejudice of the hypocrite and self-righteous Christians keeps on being repeated over and over again.
Why can’t we just go away from all those sophistic theological phrases and just love people with same-sex attractions like Jesus would?
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