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So we're supposed to dress up and hide our bodies?

Posted on May 14, 2021 at 11:10 AM

It stuns me everytime to see the reaction of people who left their gay lives or Christians in general to pictures of the human body.

If you dare to post a picture of yourself shirtless, you get responses like "disgusting", "not appropriate" and the like.

 

So what about it?

 

We can talk at length about our distorted views of ourselves in our gay lives, but seeing a human body still shocks many of us. To cut it short: this might just as well be a sign of a distorted view of ourselves as some may have had in their gay lives. To hide our bodies creates a myth. They become foreign to us, something you are not supposed to show. What is foreign, becomes soon attractive when sexual desires kick in.

 

There is absolutely nothing wrong with our bodies. No matter what sexual attraction we have, we need a natural relationship to our bodily self! If you keep on hiding it so you and/or others won't get aroused, you cause exactly that! Forbidden fruit tastes best! I am not talking about running naked in the streets, but loving yourself and others like God created you! What is still kind of tolerated in public swimming pools becomes a no-go in the private area. That has to stop! You feed what you hide. The only way to stop an uncontrollable sex drive and lust when it comes to human bodies is to make them normal and natural to us, so we can enjoy them without fainting.

 

We need to learn to love ourselves and the way we look. That includes expressing your inner self in the way you dress. It hurts me to see how some people with same-sex attractions try to imitate "straight" people by dressing, talking and acting like them. That makes the gap between the two even bigger and causes an even more distorted view of oneself. Be as you are! Don't be a copy cat! Everybody else is already taken, so no need to imitate them!

 

If you are a man and you don't like to dress up as the regular John Doe, well then dress the way you feel good! People notice when your outward looks don't match your interior. Those looks will change once your inner world is more at peace.

 

If you are a woman and you absolutely don't like dresses and skirts, well then keep on wearing your jeans!

 

To think a "gay" person becomes "straight" by dressing up as one (or as they think a straight person looks like) is simply nonsense and can cause you inner harm if it causes or adds to an identity disorder.

 

Love yourself, then you can love others! Don't let anybody tell you you need to change your looks so that you become acceptable to them! Christian love is unconditional - no "but" attached!