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Want to Serve in a Christian Ex-Gay Ministry?

Posted on October 23, 2021 at 11:45 AM

Want to get involved in a Christian ex-gay ministry and counsel people with same-sex attractions who seek a life beyond the gay scene? Here are some points to ponder:

If you want to counsel someone, you definitely need solid psychological training and knowledge as well as guided experience - even when you are not offering psychotherapy. Just to mean well certainly is not enough and might cause a lot of damage. Make sure your knowledge is always up-to-date!

If you offer Christian counseling or pastoral care, get a solid education! There are guidelines that must be followed in order to help your clients!

In order to answer and deal with theological questions, you need to have the background needed to do so. A pastor's degree from the church of the moonlight does not count as theological background!

If you are a man married to a divorced wife because your way of interpreting the Christian faith allows that, do not criticize gay Christians for doing the same.

Do not write self-help books, do not counsel and do not give public speeches if you have none of the above!

Being an ex-gay does not mean you have no same-sex attractions anymore. It means you left a life in the gay scene (or did not even go there to begin with) and chose another way.

Your job is NOT to turn gays into straight people. As a Christian, it does not matter if you have same-sex attractions or not. What matters is if you follow Jesus Christ!

Don't make a living preaching to the choir or by living in the past. Going from Church to Church talking about your experiences is a nice thing to do, but the people that need you most are probably not in there. They are where most Christians usually don't dare to go. Yet Jesus commanded us to go (out!) and make disciples, not to give nice talks to fellow Christians while charging them for it!

You need to be in constant contact with gays as well. They are not your enemies. Love them like Jesus would!

Offer unconditional love - not a "I love you, but..."!

Be there also for those who are not Christians or who want to stay in a gay life. Show them God will never leave them!

Don't keep on giving testimony over and over again. It is not about you and you should not stir things up all the time, but look ahead now!

Be honest! There is nothing wrong with having same-sex attractions! It is up to us what we do with them. Don't tell people you don't have them anylonger ("ex-homosexual") when this is not the truth!

Remember it is always up to the client to set a goal, not to you. Even - and especially - if you have a license as a psychotherapist you should only work within the standards, rules and guidelines of your profession!

Anger issues?

Posted on April 13, 2017 at 4:55 PM

Have you ever been told you have an "anger issue" - along with some Bible verses to help you to repent? Anger is a completely normal emotion. Nobody (!) does NOT get angry. Jesus got angry. He got so angry He chased the merchants out of the temple. Stop pretending you have no emotions and/or emotions are a bad thing. Emotions have a function in our lives. We have them for a reason. Without emotions, humanity would not even have survived. They protect us, motivate us or prevent us from doing something. Get a life!

Advice

Posted on December 17, 2016 at 10:40 AM

I find it funny when Christian counselors or people who are involved in pastoral care keep on repeating the "mantra" that you should not give advice to someone, but rather help him or her finding it out themselves while at the same time "guiding" them into exactly the very direction the advice would have gone. This is what people usually refer to as manipulation. To help someone find out things by himself or herself has its place in counseling - as well as an advice has.