|Posted on May 14, 2021 at 11:10 AM|
It stuns me everytime to see the reaction of people who left their gay lives or Christians in general to pictures of the human body.
If you dare to post a picture of yourself shirtless, you get responses like "disgusting", "not appropriate" and the like.
So what about it?
We can talk at length about our distorted views of ourselves in our gay lives, but seeing a human body still shocks many of us. To cut it short: this might just as well be a sign of a distorted view of ourselves as some may have had in their gay lives. To hide our bodies creates a myth. They become foreign to us, something you are not supposed to show. What is foreign, becomes soon attractive when sexual desires kick in.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with our bodies. No matter what sexual attraction we have, we need a natural relationship to our bodily self! If you keep on hiding it so you and/or others won't get aroused, you cause exactly that! Forbidden fruit tastes best! I am not talking about running naked in the streets, but loving yourself and others like God created you! What is still kind of tolerated in public swimming pools becomes a no-go in the private area. That has to stop! You feed what you hide. The only way to stop an uncontrollable sex drive and lust when it comes to human bodies is to make them normal and natural to us, so we can enjoy them without fainting.
We need to learn to love ourselves and the way we look. That includes expressing your inner self in the way you dress. It hurts me to see how some people with same-sex attractions try to imitate "straight" people by dressing, talking and acting like them. That makes the gap between the two even bigger and causes an even more distorted view of oneself. Be as you are! Don't be a copy cat! Everybody else is already taken, so no need to imitate them!
If you are a man and you don't like to dress up as the regular John Doe, well then dress the way you feel good! People notice when your outward looks don't match your interior. Those looks will change once your inner world is more at peace.
If you are a woman and you absolutely don't like dresses and skirts, well then keep on wearing your jeans!
To think a "gay" person becomes "straight" by dressing up as one (or as they think a straight person looks like) is simply nonsense and can cause you inner harm if it causes or adds to an identity disorder.
Love yourself, then you can love others! Don't let anybody tell you you need to change your looks so that you become acceptable to them! Christian love is unconditional - no "but" attached!
|Posted on August 28, 2016 at 6:55 AM|
What's the point of using someone else's picture for your account? It is pathetic to see a guy whose age according to his account is in the 20s and who uses the picture of a man in his 40s with muscles and moustache. That does not make you more of a man, but a whole lot less. Manhood is something you have to earn. It is not given to you just like that and you certainly cannot steal it from someone else. Moreover, muscles and moustache do NOT automatically make a man!
|Posted on January 15, 2015 at 6:40 PM|
Isn't it interesting how many men with same-sex attractions are attracted by "masculine" or "hetero-type" men and bash effeminate men? "Masculinity" is defined through its appearance - which pretty much comes down to muscular, hairy mature men with beards. That is just as distorted a picture of a man as it is to believe make-up, silikon and high heels will turn a man into a woman. Basically, this is a tragic symptom of a deeply-rooted gender identity disorder. The individual tries to find his masculinity either by trying to "look like a man" or at least by bonding with one (i.e. having sex with him). This will never make you a real man - quite on the contrary. It will make the gap between you and your masculine identity even bigger.
|Posted on July 8, 2014 at 10:50 AM|
Men with unwanted same-sex attractions often tend to compare themselves with other men. Mostly they see themselves as “not man enough”, i.e. as not at the same level as them. They would say things like, “I don’t want to take part in our men’s group at church. I am rather clumsy and not as skillful as the other men when it comes to repair things.” or, “I am not as self-confident as other men.”
In many cases, this way of comparing themselves to other men as if that was an alien world they do not belong to reaches back to early childhood. The boys naturally tried to bond with their father, but for whatever reason this did not work out – be it because dad was emotionally not accessible or not there altogether. Maybe mom also spoke bad about dad in company of the boy. The boy would have tried for a while to bond with his dad after all, but finally he gave up – on bonding with dad and with this on finding his way into the male world altogether. Masculinity stayed a big myth for them and they somehow felt stuck between the sexes.
As puberty and with it its sexual feelings kicked in, they were attracted by what they perceived as being different from them – in this case men.
Now, on their way out and (back) to masculinity as it was planned to, they feel anxious and shy – in short uncomfortable – in company with other men. They realize that the contact with other men is crucial for every man if he wants to find his way into manhood, yet they still have that feeling of “being different” and “not being man enough”.
How to deal with that?
There is only one way: Face your fears. Yes, the other men might realize you are somewhat clumsy and afraid. However, if you fight your fears and clumsiness and go for it just the same, this will always be seen as a sign of manliness. If you run for the hills, you will feed the fears and make the gap between you and the male world even bigger. This will never be seen as a sign of manliness by any man. So fight! A man that fights always counts as a true man!
Nobody said it would be easy becoming a real man – but it is so much worth it!