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Sexual Brokenness

Was ist das eigentlich, "Sexual Brokenness"

Unter "Sexual Brokenness" fallen laut Prof. Theresa Lantini 22 Kategorien:

  • Lust / Fantasie
  • Zwanghaftes Masturbieren
  • Pornographie
  • Voyeurismus
  • Exhibitionismus
  • Verbaler Sex
  • Fetischismus
  • Vorehelicher Sex
  • Ehebruch
  • Promiskuität
  • Emotionale Abhängigkeit
  • Prostitution
  • Vergewaltigung
  • Sexueller Missbrauch
  • Pädophilie
  • Päderastie (Knabenliebe): Eine Beziehung zwischen einem älteren bzw. erwachsenen Mann und einem Jugendlichen oder Heranwachsenden (nicht zu verwechseln mit Pädophilie!)
  • Inzest
  • Sodomie (sexuelle Handlungen mit Tieren)
  • Transvestitismus
  • Transsexualität
  • Homosexualität
  • Sexsucht bzw. anonymer Sex
(Theresa Lantini, One by One Pastoral Care Guide, Pittsford: One By One (1999), 8-10. Quoted by Arthur Goldberg, Light in the Closet. Thora, Homosexuality and the Power to Change. Red Heifer Press, Beverly Hills, California, 2008)

FAQ's


Empfohlene Literatur: "The Game Plan" by Joe Dallas
 


Solange man seine sexuelle Lust voll auslebt, ist man in einem Stadium, das man vielleicht mit dem eines Betrunkenen vergleichen kann: man fühlt sich "irgendwie gut" dabei und merkt gar nicht, in was für ein Schlamassel man da geraten ist. Bei manchen setzt hinterher ein schlechtes Gewissen ein, dass aber schnell wieder zum Schweigen gebracht wird. Erst wenn man die Konsequenzen eines solchen Lebensstils am eigenen Leib zu spüren bekommt und realisiert, dass man ganz schön Schiffbruch erlitten hat, ist man für eine Therapie bereit.

Diese wird nicht leicht. Je weiter man vorankommt, desto schmerzhafter wird es, da Sex als Trostpflaster oder Schmerzmittel wegfällt und die Realität schonungslos ans Tageslicht kommt. Dann sieht man sich aber auch ohne die rosarote Brille - was für ein Mensch man durch seine Zügellosigkeit geworden ist. Ein Freund von mir sagte einmal: "Das ist es, was den Menschen vom Tier unterscheidet: Menschen können ihre Lust kontrollieren". Sollten sie zumindest. Von der Schwulenbewegung wird ja gerne propagiert, man solle seine Lust ausleben. Jeder, der das einige Jahre getan hat, weiß, wie sehr ein das verändert: jedem Impuls und jeder Lust einfach freien Lauf zu lassen. Ohne jegliche Hemmschwelle. Das zerstört den eigenen Charakter. Und der Mensch, der man dann wird, hat nicht mehr viel mit dem Menschen zu tun, der man einmal war.

Wir möchten Menschen, die ihre sexuelle Lust wieder in den Griff bekommen wollen, helfen - weil wir sie lieben. Auf die, die dies nicht möchten, sehen wir keineswegs herab. Wir denken auch nicht, wir wären "besser" als sie. Gott hat den Menschen einen freien Willen gegeben - und wir haben uns für den einzigen Weg entschieden, der für uns in Frage kommt: Jesus nachfolgen.





Sei dir sicher, dass der Teufel niemals schläft. In dem Moment, wo du dich sicher wähnst und denkst, du hättest das schlimmste hinter dir, kommst du schnell in Versuchung, das "Schutzschild" herunterzulassen. Ein Beispiel: du bist in der Dusche des Fitnesscenters, in das du regelmäßig gehst. Neben dich stellt sich ein anderer Mann und beginnt, eindeutige Signale auszusenden und sich sexuell zu berühren. Vielleicht macht er sogar einen Versuch, dich zu berühren. In dem Moment schaltet man schnell das Gehirn aus und alles konzentriert sich darauf, diesen Mann zu bekommen und Sex mit ihm zu haben (funktioniert bei Männern und Frauen auch nicht anders). Hier solltest du dich sofort zurückziehen, nicht mehr zurückblicken und deine Gedanken auf Gott konzentrieren. Zitiere Bibelverse, die du vorher auswendig gelernt hast! Praktiziere Ablenkungstechniken (siehe die Seite dazu)!

 

 
Was soll man von 12-Schritte-Programmen halten?

Es gibt verschiedene Herangehensweisen an sexuelle Probleme. Als Christ sind aber sexuelle Probleme immer auch ein Ausdruck des gebrochenen Verhältnisses zu Gott - und deshalb ist es wichtig, dies wiederherzustellen. Stelle also klar, dass das Programm, an dem tu teilnimmst, auf der Bible basiert. Lese täglich Gottes Wort, bete und suche die Gemeinschaft mit anderen Christen. Programme, die das nicht tun, solltest du ablehnen. 12-Schritte Programm aber, die mit der Bibel arbeiten, können sehr sinnvoll sein.


 
Soll ich mir bei einem Psychologen oder professionellem Seelsorger Hilfe holen?

Jemand, der sexuelle Verfehlungen begangen hat, braucht nicht automatisch professionelle Hilfe. Wenn du aber unter extremen emotionalen Folgen leidest, oder Schwierigkeiten hast, Beziehungen wiederherzustellen oder zu behalten, deine Ehe in Gefahr ist oder Ähnliches - dann kann solch ein Seelsorger oder Psychologe sehr sinnvoll sein.
Stelle aber vorher klar, dass er von einer biblischen Perspektive aus arbeitet. Die Tatsache, dass er sich Christ nennt, heißt nicht automatisch, dass er auch biblisch ist. Frage ihn deshalb folgendes:
1. Sind sie aktives Mitgleid einer örtlichen Gemeinde?
2. Welche Rolle spielt die Bibel in Ihrer Arbeit?
3. Wie ist Ihre Herangehensweise, wenn sie mit einem Menschen mit sexuellen Problemen zu tun haben?
4. Wie viele ähnliche Fälle hatten Sie schon?

Eine Daumenregel: wenn die Methode von der Bibel bestätigt wird, nimm sie an. Wenn nicht - weg damit. Wenn sie weder bestätigt noch abgelehnt wird, kannst du sie zumindest in Betracht ziehen.

 

Willenskraft alleine wird ungewolltes menschliches Verhalten nicht dauerhaft überwinden können. Willenskraft spielt sich im Kopf ab. Das Herz aber ist der Ort, wo Gefühle und Motivation ihren Ursprung haben. So kann man Probleme mit der Selbstkontrolle auch als Kampf zwischen Kopf und Herzen darstellen. Willenskraft alleine kann sogar den Teufelskreis aus Widerstehen, Nachgeben und neuem Entschluss nicht durchbrechen und so die ungewollten Sehnsüchte noch verstärken. Wir müssen die Kraft des Herzens nutzen. Dafür brauchen wir eine höhere Motivation, die das Herz so nachgiebig beeinflusst, dass es die schlechte Einstellung oder Verhaltensweise problemlos ersetzen und überwinden kann. Wir müssen vom wilden Bekämpfen zum Verfolgen von positiven Alternativen kommen.


 
Was tun, wenn dich jemand sexuell erregt? Bete für diesen Menschen! Übergib ihn Gott! Bitte Gott, ihn zu segnen!



Du musst in dein Leben eine tägliche Struktur bringen. Ein wichtiger Teil davon ist das tägliche Lesen der Bibel. Wir sind gehalten, Gott mit ganzem Herzen und bedingungslos zu lieben. Du kannst aber jemanden nicht lieben, zu dem du keine intime Beziehung hast. Wenn du Ihn tatsächlich lieben lernst, indem du gehorsam bist und sein Wort liest, wirst du automatisch vermeiden, zu sündigen, um Ihn nicht zu verletzen und beleidigen. Manchmal ist Gehorsam das Letzte, was unsere rebellischen Herzen tun wollen. Du wirst Ihn aber lieben lernen, indem du Ihn besser kennen lernst. Sein Wort bietet dir außerdem die richtige Rüstung, um den Tag gut zu überstehen. Die Bibel ist von Gott inspiriert und unfehlbar - welches bessere Mittel könnte es geben, um Ihn kennen zu lernen? In 2 Timotheus 3:16-17 lesen wir: "Jede von Gott eingegebene Schrift ist auch nützlich zur Belehrung, zur Widerlegung, zur Besserung, zur Erziehung in der Gerechtigkeit; so wird der Mensch Gottes zu jedem guten Werk bereit und gerüstet sein." Es ist weniger wichtig, wie viel du täglich liest, sondern vielmehr, dass du täglich liest. Ein Kapitel täglich ist besser als mehrere alle paar Wochen. Einige Minute Bibellesen täglich sollten also zu deinem täglichen Strukturplan gehören.
Du solltest außerdem täglich beten, nachdem du die Bibel gelesen hast. Wohlgemerkt nacher, da die Bibel dich in die richtige Richtung bringt und deine Gedanken auf das Wesentliche fokussiert. Verpflichte dich im Gebet zur sexuellen Abstinenz. Etwa wie folgt: "Heute verpflichte ich mich, die nächsten 24 Stunden sexuell abstinent zu bleiben." (sexuell abstinent ist nicht dasselbe wie sexuell rein. Sexuelle Reinheit ist das Ideal, nachdem wir alle streben, sexuelle Abstinenz der Standard, den wir von uns fordern. Komplette sexuelle Reinheit aus biblischer Sicht bedeutet die Abwesenheit jedes sexuell unmoralischen Gedankens, Wortes und jeder sexuell unmoralischen Tat. Denke auch daran, dass sexuelle Sünde aus dem Herzen kommt: "Denn von innen, aus dem Herzen der Menschen, kommen die bösen Gedanken, Unzucht, Diebstahl, Mord, Ehebruch, Habgier, Bosheit, Hinterlist, Ausschweifung, Neid, Verleumdung, Hochmut und Unvernunft. All dieses Böse kommt von innen und macht den Menschen unrein." (Markus 7:21-23, Einheitsübersetzung). Jakobus sagt in 1:14: "Jeder wird von seiner eigenen Begierde, die ihn lockt und fängt, in Versuchung geführt." Sogar ein lustvoller Blick bedeutet Ehebruch: "Ihr habt gehört, dass gesagt worden ist: Du sollst nicht die Ehe brechen. Ich aber sage euch: Wer eine Frau auch nur lüstern ansieht, hat in seinem Herzen schon Ehebruch mit ihr begangen." (Matthäus 5:27-28, Einheitsübersetzung). Wenn man also sexuelle Reinheit täglich von sich fordert, wird man fallen. Bleibe also erstmal bei der Abstinenz und sehe die Reinheit als dein Ideal an. Nimm dies aber nicht als Entschuldigung. Du bist vielleicht nicht frei von Sünde, aber du kannst dich von Pornos, Ehebruch, Sex außerhalb der Ehe usw. fernhalten. Das wäre dann Abstinenz. "Nüchternheit". Vielleicht fragst du dich nun: Wann habe ich sexuell gesündigt? Wie weit kann ich gehen? Nun, nehmen wir mal folgendes als Richtlinie: alles, was du nicht mit einer anderen Person vor deiner Frau tun kannst, ist Ehebruch. Alles, was du mit deiner Freundin nicht mitten in der Kirche tun kannst, ist sexuell unmoralisch.
Außerdem brauchst du noch eine ständige Motivation. Es ist meist nicht das Problem, richtig von falsch zu unterscheiden. Motiviert zu bleiben - das ist wahrlich schwierig! Beginne jeden Tag, indem du dich daran erinnerst, warum du mit deinem sexuell unmoralischen Verhalten aufhören willst. Du hast vielleicht nicht gleich frühmorgens die 100%-ige Motivation - aber du kannst sie dir holen, indem du täglich mit einer Wiederholung der Gründe, warum du aufhören sollst, beginnst.
Schreibe dafür auf ein Papier 35 Gründe, warum du dein Verhalten ändern solltest. Beginne mit fünf Gründen und füge täglich weiter hinzu, bis die Liste voll ist. Dann hast du genügend Motivation für jeden Tag. Und suche dir bitte keine Entschuldigungen - diese Liste täglich nach dem Bibelstudium und dem Gebet durchzulesen, ist WESENTLICH für dich!


Wenn es in meiner Gegend keine Selbsthilfegruppe gibt, soll ich selbst eine eröffnen?

Grundsätzlich ist es natürlich besser, einer bereits bestehenden Gruppe beizutreten. Wenn es aber gar nichts in der näheren Umgebung gibt, würde ich dir dringend raten, dem online-Programm von Homosexuals Anonymous beizutreten. Hier wirst du das nötige Know-How vermittelt bekommen, um selbst eine Gruppe zu eröffnen.

Telefonketten

Ein Tip aus der Praxis: Telefonketten. Besonders wirkungsvoll bei Selbsthilfegruppen, durchaus aber auch privat machbar. Sobald jemand in Gefahr ist, seinen Versuchungen nachzugehen, ruft er einen anderen Bruder (bzw. bei Frauen eine Schwester) an oder schickt eine SMS und setzt so die Kette in Gang. Die anderen versuchen schnellstmöglichst zu reagieren und ihn/sie davon abzuhalten (anrufen, bei ihm/ihr vorbeischauen usw.). Außerdem beginnen die Brüder/Schwestern, für ihn/sie zu beten.

Sehr wirkungsvoll und hilfreich! Bestimmt kennst auch du Menschen, die das für dich tun würden - und für die du dasselbe tun könntest!



Now, you may ask what burning cedar and sin have in common., or have one with the other other.

This morning I fed my wood stove early in the morning with some small cedar blocks to boost the heat output. Later on when I opened the door to add more firewood, bits of cedar hot coals spit out onto the floor.

It crossed my mind at that time that sin is just like that. When we open the door to sin, a small fire begins to grow in you. The more you add to it's pleasures, the hotter it gets. And when you try to close the door on it on your own, you are able to control it for a short time. But later on as temptation arises and  you give in that temptation and open up the door once again, sin spits out at you with even more fury, consuming you. I had a hard time controlling the embers of coal that were spitting out at me. Each time I reached out and picked up one ember and opened the door to throw it back into the firebox, another ember spit out at me, and often a few more would
come at the same time, to the point that I was having a hard time to keep it under control. Isn't that just like sin. The more we play with it, the more it keeps coming at us.

The moral of this little story is, do not open the door to sin at any time. And if you have, then lock the door permanently to it, so that it cannot gain control over you ever again. The more you play with sin, the more it controls you. And the harder it is after the fact to get rid of it.

Remember, you cannot control sin, it controls you.

andre
 


Wenn uns andere Körper auf unangemessene Weise sexuell anziehen, sollten wir uns an eines erinnern: auch diese Menschen sind Geschöpfe Gottes. Gottes Kinder. Unsere Brüder und Schwestern. Wir sollten dann für diese Menschen beten und sie Gott anvertrauen.
Es dürfte schwer sein, dann noch sexuelle Gefühle für sie zu haben...




When Jesus told the woman to "go sin no more'., what did He mean? Did He mean that she would not sin? I don't think so. I think that Jesus was saying don't sin wilfully like you did before. We have sins of omission, we forget to worship god and sins of comission, we cmit sin and know it's wrong. Jesus sets us free from our past sins and asks us as Christians to follow Him .. how often we fail to do this.
Yet to sin and induce another to sin as well compounds the sin (makes the sin worse). To know how to do right and then do wrong is sin. And we fall short of the glory of God, God calls us to be 'holy' as He is holy. Our sin takes us away from God and we break our fellowship with God. Sion destroys our union with God. Of course we can confess our sins to God abd He will forgive us and bleanse us, isan;t that great to know. But we should as the Bible tells us to, "avoid sin", as God understands the ramification of sin in our life.
We must practice our Christian faith. Going to church will do noone any good, unless they are 'born again'. Reading many books may give us knowledge but unless we apply the knowledge gained our reading is in vain, much like our Christianity, ubless we practice it we arestill "without hope and without God' in this world.
Believe me I know that sin is powerful, yet I have founda power greater than sin that has set me free. You also can attain freedom by reading and doing and avoiding all places where you may find sin.

Bill B.



Quelle für das Material auf dieser Seite: u.a. Joe Dallas

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Eure Leiber sind Glieder Christi

Schwestern und Brüder!
Der Leib ist aber nicht für die Unzucht da,
   sondern für den Herrn,
und der Herr für den Leib.
Gott hat den Herrn auferweckt;
er wird durch seine Macht auch uns auferwecken.

Wisst ihr nicht, dass eure Leiber Glieder Christi sind?
Wer sich an den Herrn bindet,
   ist e i n Geist mit ihm.

Hütet euch vor der Unzucht!
Jede andere Sünde, die der Mensch tut,
   bleibt außerhalb des Leibes.
Wer aber Unzucht treibt,
   versündigt sich gegen den eigenen Leib.

Oder wisst ihr nicht,
   dass euer Leib ein Tempel des Heiligen Geistes ist,
   der in euch wohnt und den ihr von Gott habt?
Ihr gehört nicht euch selbst;
denn um einen teuren Preis seid ihr erkauft worden.
Verherrlicht also Gott in eurem Leib!

(1 Kor 6,13c-15a.17-20)

 

FAQ's English

"You have been given the choice between war and dishonor."
Winston Churchill to the British Parliament, 1938.

 

"People suffer from sexual obsession when sexual thoughts control them rather than being able to control the thoughts."
[Earl Wilson, Sexual Sin' , p. 15] "To be controlled by anything other than Jesus Christ is idolatry and
therefore sinful." [ibid., p. 18]




 

Guys,

I am currently doing "The Game Plan" with one of your brothers and he allowed me to publish his list with the 35 reasons why you should leave a homosexual life (or not go into it) - or any other kind of sexually broken life. As you know, that list serves as a motivation - reading it aloud every morning after Scripture reading and prayer.

So here we go:


1 One it hurts my wife
2 Hurt my kids
3 Have a criminal record - served one year probation
4 God does not approve of such behavior
5 Separates me from the love of God
6 Could get a serious diease
7 Lost my job teaching at the college
8 Could lose my current job if I go porn site
9 Live in denial and a scret life which is not healthy
10 It is not real, but a fantasy that ends in diaster.
11 no love for anyone - it is all about me.
12 lust is out to destory me
13 I cannot make a man love me.
14 True union is btwn a man and a woman
15 my life was out of control
16 hate one night stands
17 does not give me what I am looking for in a relationship
18 never satisfy looking for next big fix
19 in bondage to my false high
20 causes depression
21 causes isolation
22 want to live for Christ
23 lived in fear
24 not socially accepted
25 want to relate to men in a healthy way
26 destroys friendships
27 the chemical release is like a drug and i can't say no
28 cannot distinquist people motives if they real or not
29 not able to be honest
30 not able to trust
31 cripple my ability to be light and salt that the world needs
32 i am deliberatily putting my pleasure before God, wife and kids
33 i am polutting my mind and body
34 i am participating in the sort of evil i said i am against
35 i am not being the man i can be


 


Now, you may ask what burning cedar and sin have in common., or have one with the other other.
This morning I fed my wood stove early in the morning with some small cedar blocks to boost the heat output. Later on when I opened the door to add more firewood, bits of cedar hot coals spit out onto the floor. It crossed my mind at that time that sin is just like that. When we open the door to sin, a small fire begins to grow in you. The more you add to it's pleasures, the hotter it gets. And when you try to close the door on it on your own, you are able to control it for a short time. But later on as temptation arises and  you give in that temptation and open up the door once again, sin spits out at you with even more fury, consuming you. I had a hard time controlling the embers of coal that were spitting out at me. Each time I reached out and picked up one ember and opened the door to throw it back into the firebox, another ember spit out at me, and often a few more would come at the same time, to the point that I was having a hard time to keep it under control. Isn't that just like sin. The more we play with it, the more it keeps coming at us. The moral of this little story is, do not open the door to sin at any time. And if you have, then lock the door permanently to it, so that it cannot gain control over you ever again. The more you play with sin, the more it controls you. And the harder it is after the fact to get rid of it. Remember, you cannot control sin, it controls you.
andre




Sin is comparable to a mud puddle.
 
Okay!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
How so?
 
Well, remember when you were a little boy, and your parents always told you to stay out of the puddles.
 
But why? Simply, because they do not want you to get wet, your clothes to get wet, and mom does not have to wash dirty muddy clothes.
 
Okay. Now you are grown up. You to now have a little boy. And, one day you are walking with your little boy down the street just after a heavy rain. As you are walking along, you spot way ahead a mud puddle taking up the space of half the sidewalk ahead. As you approach it you like any other parent, instruct your little boy to stay out of the puddle.
 
Now if you have a normal boy, what does he do? He, seeing the puddle runs up to it and just as he is about to step into it, you yell out;;Stay out of the water!"
 
So the little boy, stops in his tracks just on the edge of the puddle. But, of course, the temptation to walk into it works on  his mind and cries, "go for it, walk right in." But, he hesitates a bit and looks at it and knowing that dad is right behind, he begins to skirt the puddle, but drags one foot into the puddle just a little bit. Did you see that? Though he was told not to step into the puddle, he drags his foot just slightly into the puddle. Did he disobey his father? Sure he did. Well, one would argue, "No, he did not walk into the water. But, in fact, he did disobey his father. He was told to stay out of the water. True, though he did not walk fully into the puddle, he did drag one foot into the puddle.
 
So, the father lets it slide by, seeing as the boy did not walk fully into the puddle, he does not discipline the boy.
 
So, onward they go continuing on with their walk. And of course there are more puddles up ahead. So, as they approach the next puddle, again the father tells the little boy not to walk into the water. So, of course, and again, the little guy runs up ahead, and stops just before stepping into the mud puddle. This time he thinks, well I got away with dragging my foot into it the last time, so maybe I can just walk around the edge with both feet this time.
 
Well, this time dad gives the little fellow a scolding, but does not get very upset. And on they go until he sees another puddle ahead, but says nothing figuring this time the boy will stay out seeing as he scolded the little guy this last time.
 
So, yet once again the little boy runs up ahead, and ........................................................................
 
Yup, you guessed it. This time he runs full fledge into the puddle.
 
Now is this scenario, a lot like temptations and sin? You see, for most things in our life, we are told ahead of time what is wrong and what is right. God has also written it in our hearts, what is right, and what is wrong. Rom. 2:15; Heb. 8:15; 10:16But, We like to be in control and want to do what we feel like doing, even though we know that sins are wrong.
 
So, often enough we are having a great day, walking along our merry way until we see a mud puddle. (sin) Now we are told in our hearts and by the Father, through His H.S. that we best not go there. Stay out of it. but temptations says, go ahead. have a look. It can't hurt to just have a little look. So we go on ahead and drag our feet along the edge, not fully walking into it, yet getting oh so close.
 
Well, that was not so bad, we say to ourselves. Nothing happened, I did not get wet, really, and I did not hurt no one. So we go on again and yet around the corner we spot something again that attracts our attention. Now as we approach we think, well, the last time was okay, so why not look just a little closer this time. So we approach it and this time, though we go in with both feet just around the edge, we do not go quite all the way in, and we walk away feeling unscathed from this experience.
 
Now as we go farther along we again see something, another puddle that looks pretty clean and not very deep. And it seems to be filled with colours and things that really appeal to our senses. So, once again we go ahead, and this time we go fully into it. But this time, we realize, that we are dirty. The colours were oil, dirt. And we try to brush it off, but it is not coming off very well at all. And we feel guilty. We feel ashamed.
 
So we tell ourselves, "From now on, I will not go into that puddle again. And we go home, and we go to bed and forget about the day and rest well.
 
The next day we get up and off we go again. And...well, of course. We see another puddle, but we remember the last time. But, this time we think, well  ya , I should not have done that, but it sure felt good when I did it. We walk around the puddle this time, and we look at it from every angle and after a time we just touch it with our toes. Well, that was not so bad. So off we go again, and again we fully immerse ourselves into the puddle of sin

 
Now we come out again and this time we get upset with ourselves because this time we are filthy with the sin from head to toe. And we try on our own to clean it off, but it sure sticks. We are unable to get rid of it. AS hard as we try, we each and every time go past it, but cannot resist. We continue the cycle of going back to the puddle and continue to get fully immersed in it, and each time we get upset with ourselves for having allowed the temptation to drag us in.

Is  there no way out of this cycle of sin? "O wretched man that I am! who shall deliver me from this body of death?" Rom 7:25

"For that which I do I allow not: for what I would, that do I not; but what I hate, that I do" If then I do that which I would not, I consent unto the law that is good. Now then it is no more I that do it, but sin that dwelleth in me. For I know that in me (that is my flesh),) dwelleth no good thing: for to will is present with me; but how to perform that which is good I find not. For the good that I would I do not; but he evil which I would not, that I do. Now if I do that I would not, it is no more I that do it, but sin that
dwelleth in me. I find then a law, that when I would do good, evil is present with me. For I delight in the law of God after the inward man: But I se another law in my members warring against the law of my mind, and bringing me into the captivity of the law of sin which is in my members. O wretched man that I am! who shall deliver me from the body of this death? I thank God through Jesus Christ our Lord. So then with the mind I myself serve the law of God; but with the flesh the law of sin. There is now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh  but after the Spirit.  Rom. 7:15-8:1

You see,   that is the way of sin and temptation. We wish not to do wrong in our hearts, but because sin dwells in us, we are tempted to sin. But do we have to give in to sin? If we have Christ in us, we no longer need to give in to sin. Because He now lives in us we have His spirit  living in us which we now need to submit to rather than submitting to the will of the flesh. As you read on in Rom. 8 1-13 we are given the truth that we need not walk after the will of the flesh because Christ now lives in us. We walk in sin, more than not, because e like he sin. But, we should not and need not.

When you start a new job, you have a whole set of new rules to follow after to do your job and to work as a team with people. Likewise when you became a Christian, you now have a whole new set of rules to follow after. You should not be following after rules of your past life.

1 Cor. 10:13 tells us; " There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it." (King James Version)

You se,  because you are now a member of the household of God, and now have the Spirit of God abiding in you, you are to no longer follow  after your old ways, but after the new rules, the new ways that He dictates in your heart. And He makes that power available to you to be able to escape any and all temptation, by delivering to you that power to flee temptations with the power that is also in Christ Jesus, who likewise when tempted in the desert by the devil also escaped temptations. How, with the Word of God in each and every situation. Matt. 4:1-11

You to are able to make the devil leave you Matt. 4:11, when you confront him (his temptations) with the Word of God. You get that Word  by studying it. 2 Tim 3:15, but hiding it in your heart Ps. 119:11 and meditating upon it. Ps 1:2 When you do that, it becomes a part of you just as much as your skin is a part of you. You can call upon the Word Of God at Will and use it as as amour, as a weapon to defend yourself against the fiery darts of the devil. Eph. 6: 10-18 and by prayer.

So my friends, I would implore you, encourage you, to make the most of your time with God. Take time out at the beginning of he day as best as you are able, and make lots of one on one time with Him throughout your whole day, studying, meditating, memorizing in His Word and pray in all things. In this way when you come across puddles of sin, you will be able to skirt around and away from them with the Word of God, causing the devil to flee from you and, in this way you will be empowered to resist and flee temptations.

The reason many have problems in overcoming sin, is one  they like their sins, but  when you are a Christian, you struggle because you are not using and believing in the power that already dwells with you. Yes, there is sin dwelling in you. But you need not answer to sin dwelling in you. You need not let it be your master. You need not obey the rules of your past life.

You are now a child of God, whom has given you all that you need to be able to resist the power of sin in your life. Grasp hold of that power. Let it be your master, let Him be your strength to lead you to walk the way He wants and has designed you to walk. Listen now to the new rules now the old rules. You are no longer working for him who is the master of the spirit of the air  but of Him whom is the master and creator of the universe.

When you were are child, you played and obeyed as a child, but now you are a mature man, stop playing in the puddles. Walk no longer in the puddles, but rather walk with Him.

André



Brothers,

how many times have we bought satan's lies?

How many false accusations, excuses and doubts did he manage to get through our minds and weaken our faith?

Examples:

- I will never make it. I will forever be gay.
- I didn't really have sex, we just masturbated (or had oral sex and like this we didn't do it "like you do it with a woman")
- I don't act out with others. I just masturbate with fantasies.
- I only do porn - no sexual activities...
- We won't have sex. I am just meeting a gay friend and we will have a cup of coffee together.
- I am just checking that old email account I used in my gay time to see what can be deleted.
- I am just meeting that gay guy, but I won't start something with him.
- I am just going to that gay bar, but I won't have sex there.
- We just kissed and I jacked off, but we didn't have sex.
- I am worth nothing. I still have those thoughts and fantasies.
- I will never be free of same-sex attractions.
- I was born that way. It's not my fault.
- It's the bad childhood I've had. I can't help it if I act out.
- I've tried it all. Nothing works. I've prayed and I still have sex with the guys.

Or my personal favorite (happened last nite to myself):

As you know, I only masturbate without fantasies. Now I've always thought that this is pretty safe and maybe the only biblical way to do "it". Well, that might be the case for some, but what's healthy for them doesn't have to be healthy for me.

And so it was. Well, I didn't really yield to fantasies, but I felt them popping up and trying to get through. And - without going into details - let's just say I really went for it. I "enjoyed" it a lot...

... to find out later on it didn't release my sexual tension but build it up a lot more. I was horny all night and I had one (homo-)erotic dream after the other.

Now I could say I can't help my dreams, but I sure triggered that.

And read my lips: if you give satan the chance to get a foot into the door he WILL do so. Not just maybe, but a 100 %. And when I woke up, I could clearly hear his voice: see - I can still get you with the men. You didn't have a single dream with women...

So I raised up my chin and told him I sure sinned in there, but he will not get me like this. I prayed and read His Word - the best way to give him a black eye.

But the next time I know better...


Rob


 
Erotic dreams

Sometimes it happens that you have one of those erotic dreams - or even a nightmare with memories from your past.
You wake up and you think: I can't believe that happened. You can learn to control your thoughts during daytime, but at night you are defenseless. Totally vulnerable.
That is when the devil tries to get the foot into the door.
I had one of those dreams tonight. I acted out with a man in my dream.
Now it is really important how you react to that and how you feel about it.
I woke up, realized what has happened and started praying. First I told the devil he will not get me like this. He might send me dreams at night when I can do nothing about it, but he won't get me at broad daylight. Also he will not discourage me with that or make me think I can never do it. I can never overcome my same-sex attractions.
I can and I did.
Then I got up and after I took a shower I sat down and started reading His Word - the best remedy against satan's attacks. Then I prayed again.
So - yes, he got me really horny tonight. So what? It was not my fault. I did ask the Lord for forgiveness in case there was some sort of fantasy on my part involved or if I triggered it with something. Honestly, I don't think so, but whatever. But I KNOW I am free - the victory is already won!
Funny that it happened exactly tonight. I met a girl yesterday at that event I was speaking at. She was speaking there, too (she is a nurse and helps women not to abort. She stands in front of hospitals and offers them all kinds of help and assistance). On our ride back with the train we had a good time and got along very well. So I do have hetero feelings and desires in me.
So then the devil tries to convince me that I will forever be "gay".

NO! I WON'T!
Resist the devil and he will flee from you. He won't even call it a fight then.
Don't believe his lies. See them as what they really are: lies.
And hold on to Jesus - whatever happens. Stay in His Word. Temptation has to be in the world, but the Lord also gave us a means to cope with it:
The Bible.
God bless you,
Robert



Guys,

I'd like to remind you of how important discipline is for recovery. Holding on to your program, your daily structure. Pursuing your goal - no matter how long it takes and how hard it will be. Learning to control your lust - and not let it control you.

God bless you,

Robert

Using our sexual energies another way…


Who hasn’t struggled with sexual issues in his or her life? Some think it is alright to do (almost) everything and anything that comes to our minds as far as sexual desires are concerned. Really? Resisting impulsive behavior is a sign of maturity and also something that sets human beings apart from other species. For the Jews and Christians (or Jewish believers in Jesus) among us leading a chaste life is something we do out of our love for God. We know that if He tells us to do or not to do something, then not because He likes to boss us around, but because He created us and loves us. Who should know better than Him what is good for us? When a loving father tells His child to do this or not to do that, then because he knows what could happen if the child does not follow the father’s orders. The worst thing that comes to my mind is what we pray for in the Lord’s prayer: “Lead us not into temptation”. This does not mean that God literally leads us into temptation. However, the worst scenario would be that God lets us go our own way, telling us “why, you think you know better and want to go by yourself? Okay, you can do just that!” Sometimes though the Lord seeks us by letting us go. He lets us go our own way so that having to face the consequences that this will bring along might bring us back to Him. Some sort of a last means to save an disobedient child.

Some believe that sexual energy somehow has to find a way to be expressed, else we “explode” (meaning that we “need it”, we need to have orgasm – and be it through masturbation – in order to stay physically and/or mentally healthy.) I am not a doctor and I will not give medical advice, but looking at the many people that live a pure life without having health problems through that – as opposed to the many cases of sexual transmitted diseases coming from an impure life that seeks personal pleasure and the “quick fix” rather than real satisfaction God’s way, I think I need not say more.

So what to do with that sexual energy? It is an erroneous belief that it can and should only be expressed through sexual intercourse or masturbation. Sexuality is not something bad. God has given us sexuality for a reason – for the good of the (heterosexual) spouses and the procreation of children. However, we are also told in the written Word of God that not all are made for marriage (and thus able to physically express their sexual energy through intercourse). Some renounce marriage for the sake of God’s kingdom. There we have the key: Those people express their sexual energies in a godly way: for the sake of God’s kingdom. What does that mean for us? Let’s ask God to show us our call, our vocation in life. He designed each one of us like nobody else on this planet and He did that for a reason. We were given talents that nobody else has and we are supposed to use them much like sexuality in marriage: They should become fruitful and multiply. “Not doing something” or “refraining from doing something” is only part of the deal. It is only a means, not an end, and it certainly does not bring rich fruit if things stay there. Those who renounced marriage for the kingdom of God do not stop to be men and women who have sexual energies. They must not stop there but express them the way God wants them to be expressed: for the sake of God’s kingdom.

Robert

Bible Reading

Nützliche Verse:

(Sprüche 7)


Römer 6:12-13

2 Samuel 11 (gesamt) - 12 (1-9)



Matthäs 5:29-30


1 Thessalonicher 4:1-9


Hebräer 12:4-12


Sprüche 5:1-23



Useful Bible Verses:

Genesis 39 1

Corinthians 10:12-13

Psalm 51 2

Corinthians 10:3-5

Psalm 119:9-11

Galatians 5:1, 13, 16-18

Proverbs 6:20-24

Ephesians 2:10

Proverbs 23:26-28

Ephesians 5:1-33

Daniel 3

Ephesians 6:10-18

Matthew 26:41

Philippians 4:8

Mark 7:20-23

Colossians 3:1-10

Luke 4:1-12 1

Thessalonians 4:1-8

John 10:10 1

Timothy 6:11-12

John 15:1-17

2 Timothy 2:22

John 17:3

Titus 2:11-14

Acts 15:28-29

1 Peter 2:16

Romans 1:16-32

1 Peter 4:1-6

Romans 6:23

Hebrews 4:15-16

Romans 7:15-8:14

James 1:13-15

Romans 12:1-2

James 4:1-10

Romans 13:12-14

Revelation 2:7

Links International

Pure Passion

Hookers for Jesus

God has a better way!

Genesis Counseling

 

Overcoming Sexual Sin

www.porno-frei.ch

http://www.christiancounsel.com


 

www.pureonline.com


Pure Restoration
www.purerestoration.org

 


True Love Waits Campaign
www.truelovewaits.com


 

Cohabiting, All About Living Together Before Marriage
members.aol.com/cohabiting/index.htm


MarriagePartnership.com

www.christianitytoday.com/marriage


Marriage Builders

www.marriagebuilders.com


www.pureintimacy.org


Emotional Abuse
http://www.myndtalk.org/htm/abuse.htm


 

Open Hearts Ministry
http://www.gospelcom.net/openhearts/


Spiritual Abuse Recovery Resources
www.spiritualabuse.com


Wings: A Place For Healing From Abuse
members.aol.com/Wings2Fly/wings.html


Abuse/Incest Support

http://incestabuse.about.com


Jim Hopper's Home Page
www.jimhopper.com


Parents & Loved Ones of Abuse & Rape Survivors
www.geocities.com/HotSprings/2656


Survivors of Incest Anonymous

http://www.siawso.org


Be Broken

www.bebroken.com


Covenant

www.covenanteyes.com


Fires of Darkness

www.firesofdarkness.com


Porn Free
http://porn-free.org
www.porn-free.org


Pure Life Ministries
www.purelifeministries.org


Pure Restoration
www.purerestoration.com


Sex Addicts Anonymous
www.saa-recovery.org


Sexaholics Anonymous
www.sa.org


Every Man's Battle
www.everymansbattle.com

 


Every Woman's Battle
www.everywomansbattle.com

 


Celebrate Recovery
www.celebraterecovery.com


Same-Sex Attraction Morality League (catholic)


www.realityresources.com


Helpful Ministries in the States

Desert Stream Ministries
www.DesertStream.org

eXXit
www.eXXit.org

Faithful And True Ministries
www.FaithfulAndTrueMinistries.com

Focus on the Family
www.Family.org and www.PureIntimacy.org

Heart to Heart Counseling Centers
www.SexAddict.com

Overcomers Outreach
www.OvercomersOutreach.org

Pure Life Ministries
www.PureLifeMinistries.org

Sought Out, Inc.
www.SoughtOut.org

Stone Gate Resources
www.StoneGateResources.org

Theophostic Prayer Ministries
www.Theophostic.com

What If? Freedom Ministries
www.WhatIfMinistries.com

 

Further Reading

Every Man's Battle: Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time, by Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker with Mike Yorkey, Waterbrook Press. (This book also contains sections written especially for the wives of men who struggle with pornography.)

Addicted to "Love," by Stephen Arterburn, Servant Publications.

Breaking Free: Understanding Sexual Addiction and the Healing Power of Jesus, by Russell Willingham, InterVarsity Press.

Faithful and True: Sexual Integrity in a Fallen World, by Mark Laaser, Ph.D., Zondervan.

False Intimacy: Understanding the Struggle of Sex Addiction, by Dr. Harry Schaumburg, NavPress.

The Final Freedom: Pioneering Sexual Addiction Recovery, by Douglas Weiss, Ph.D., Heart to Heart Counseling Center.

At the Altar of Sexual Idolatry, by Steve Gallagher, Pure Life Ministries.

Ordering Your Private World, by Gordon MacDonald, Thomas Nelson Publishers.

Personal Holiness in Times of Temptation, by Bruce Wilkinson, Walk Thru the Bible Ministries.

 


Overcomes Outreach
www.overcomersoutreach.org

 


www.thepainofporn.com
The horror that pornography has brought among wives and loved ones is real. Read the stories submitted by everyday wives, husbands, and even more sadly, children, telling of how their husband's or father's use of pornography has wounded them deeply and how for most, the wounds are just the beginning.

Christ-centered community abundant with hope for the sexually broken.

Christ-Centered Men's Support | Be set free from sexual addiction | Great Resources

Reaching out to pornography addicts and the people who love them.

Battle Plan Ministry (BPM) at Central Church in Collierville, TN, provides ? an online and face-to-face ministry of restoration and discipleship for Christians who are involved in habitual sexual sin, ? support for women, the silent victims of sexual sin involving men in their lives, ? and resources for families dealing with the onslaught of our sexually saturated world.

Helping people discover the truth about pornography and "sexual" addictions.

www.christians-in-recovery.org

Parents and Friends of Ex-Gays & Gays (PFOX) provides outreach, education, and public awareness in support of the ex-gay community and families touched by homosexuality. PFOX has local chapters across the country.

TechMission is a non-profit social service organization. TechMission supports Christian organizations in using technology to transform vulnerable communities.






Action sites - porn & related issues


 
 

Links

Resources

The Game Plan  von Joe Dallas
W Publishing Group (20. September 2005)
Taschenbuch / Sprache Englisch



aish.com: Be Free! (Video)

St. Michael's Basic Training: Biblical Sexuality (DVDs)

 



For more useful resources please go to Pure Passion
 

ESV Audio Widget

Romans 6:18

More Links



Same-Sex Attraction Morality League: http://www.ssaml.com/index.html
First Stone Ministries for Sexually Broken: http://www.firststone.org/
 




 
Healing For The Soul

Mit der Zeit gehen?

Ich habe echt die Nase voll von der Kirche. Jeder Kirche. Die leben doch noch in der Vergangenheit! Was Sex angeht, sollten die sich echt mal umstellen. Wir leben doch nicht mehr wie vor 2000 Jahren! Die Zeiten haben sich geändert. Es ist doch normal und schön, wenn die Menschen Sex haben. Da muss man doch nicht gleich heiraten oder gar "keusch" oder im Zölibat leben! Ich sage meinen Kindern auf jeden Fall, sie sollten die Katze nicht im Sack kaufen. Wenn sie einen Partner haben, sollen sie "es" ruhig mal ausprobieren. Was, wenn es nicht klappt? Nein, die Kirche muss sich definitiv ändern.

Solche Stellungnahmen hört man heutzutage am laufenden Band. Die verstaubte Kirche, die nicht mit der Zeit gehen will. Das verstaubte Buch, das vor 2000 Jahren geschrieben wurde und so gar nichts mit unserem Leben zu tun haben scheint.

Ist das wirklich so? Und sollte sich die Kirche der Zeit anpassen?

Nun - ja und nein. Ja, was bestimmte Formen angeht, nein, was den Inhalt angeht.

Gott hat uns bereits im Schöpfungsbericht in Genesis ein klares Konzept für menschliches Zusammenleben gegeben, dass sich wie ein roter Faden durch das Alte und Neue Testament zieht und auch von Jesus bekräftigt wurde: die heterosexuelle, monogame Liebe zwischen Mann und Frau im Rahmen einer lebenslangen Ehe.

Das soll nichts mehr mit uns zu tun haben? Wir sollten nicht die "Katze im Sack kaufen"?

Sex ist etwas unglaublich wertvolles und schönes. Warum es vergeuden? Warum sich wechselnden Partnern hingeben und sein Intimstes mit ihnen teilen, um sich dann wieder von ihnen zu trennen, weil "es" nicht funktioniert? Was, wenn es funktioniert und sich dann im Rahmen der Ehe herausstellt - aus welchen Gründen auch immer - das es auf einmal "nicht mehr funktioniert"? Trennt man sich dann vom Partner? Was für eine Partnerschaft wäre das?

Körperliche Liebe ist ein Ausdruck der Liebe zweier Menschen. In ihr verschmelzen sie und werden eins. Eine Ehe ist aber weit mehr als das. Eine Partnerschaft, die sich nur auf Sex und kurzfristige Hochgefühle gründet, wird kaum Bestand haben. Nicht umsonst spricht man heute von "Lebensabschnittsgefährten". Was für ein Wort - und doch sagt es so viel über heutige Beziehungen!

Und doch hat sich das Konzept biblischer Ehe durch die Jahrtausende bewährt. Es bietet den perfekten Rahmen nicht nur für Mann und Frau, sondern auch für die Erziehung der Kinder. Jedes andere Konzept muss hier zwangsweise versagen.

Der Schöpfer des Universums soll nichts von "unserer Zeit" gewusst haben, als er uns geschaffen hat? Als die Bibel geschrieben wurde? Aber wir - Seine Geschöpfe! - wissen es besser? Im Ernst??

Woher kommen dann all die vaterlosen Familien, die hohe Zahl von Geschlechtskrankheiten, ungewollten Schwangerschaften, Trennungen und dergleichen mehr?

Eine Kirche sollte dort mit der Zeit gehen, wo es darum geht, die Menschen mit zeitgemäßen Mitteln anzusprechen. Neue Formen der Evangelisation zu finden wäre hierfür ein Beispiel. Neue Formen der Berufungspastoral ein anderes. Wenn eine Kirche jedoch beginnt, an ihren Grundwerten, an der biblischen Wahrheit oder ihren Inhalten zu rütteln, nur um "mit der Zeit zu gehen" und mehr Besucher in die Kirche zu locken, unterschreibt sie ihr eigenes Todesurteil. Sünde, die widerspruchslos in der Gemeinde geduldet wird, breitet sich schnell wie eine Krebsgeschwulst im Körper aus. Und bald schon verschwindet die Gemeinde dann in der Bedeutungslosigkeit. Sie wollte wie die Welt werden, um der Welt zu gefallen. Gerade das darf sie nicht.

"Manchmal brauchen die Menschen etwas Beständiges" hat mir einmal Josef Mittermaier, Provinzial der bayerischen Kapuziner über die katholische Kirche gesagt.

Und damit hat er recht: was die Kirche betrifft, brauchen die Menschen etwas Beständiges.


Saint Mary Magdalene de Pazzi

Model of true love and Patron saint of those who suffer from sexual temptations: http://www.trueknights.org/Newsletter/EletterV3I9-Saint.html


Links National


Weisses Kreuz






siehe auch Artikel des Deutschen Institutes für Jugend und Gesellschaft:

Männliche Homosexualität und Promiskuität


Here is a great list of other choices from our SA friends. **Be aware that what works may shift/diminish and change over time and according to the intensity of emotions.  BUT....If it stops working, go to something else.
Phil (TX)

100 ways to stay sober


1 ) Don’t forget the past.
2 ) Don’t overdo any "medication"
3 ) Stay away from acting out places, people, websites
4 ) Acknowledge a total slip will follow the first look, phone call, or turn you shouldn't make.
5 ) Listen and try to help another sex addict today.
6 ) Attend S-Group, AA, or other 12 Step regularly and get involved.
7 ) Help someone today even in the smallest way, not expecting something in return.
8 ) Think about the word "insanity" and "restore" in step 2.
9 ) Maintain a conscious contact with God
10) Ask what you can do for your group.
11) Pause!!! when insanity comes.
12) Ask God to come into your heart and mind in that pause.
13) Get a sponsor immediately!
14) Call your sponsor daily
15) Offer to help your sponsor with some thing
16) Visit a recovery house, or do some volunteer work.
17) Visit a depressed friend
18) Listen to learn
19) In problems, examine your part, first
20) Remember, your disease is incurable, progressive and fatal.
21) Do first things first.
22) Don't become too tired.
23) Eat at regular hours.
24) Use the telephone to call someone in recovery, when upset.
25) Be active - don't just sit around. Idle time will kill you.
26) Say the Serenity Prayer daily.
27) Change old routines and patterns that are not positive.
28) Don't become too hungry.
29) Avoid loneliness.
30) Practice control of your anger.
31) Air your resentments.
32) Be willing to help whenever needed.
33) Be good to yourself, you deserve it.
34) Slow down. Easy does it.
35) Get out of the "IF ONLY" trap.
36) Remember HOW IT WAS. Your last slip, the feelings etc.
37) Beware of how you will react beforehand. Expect your emotions.
38) Help another in his/her recovery, extend your hand, listen.
39) Try to turn your life and your will over to your Higher Power.
40) Avoid all mood-altering drugs, read labels on all medicines.
41) Turn loose of old negative ideas.
42) If you must go to a situation where there will be temptation, take a sober 12 step buddy with you.

43) Replace old acting out buddies with new SA/SAA buddies.

44) Read the AA Big Book slowly.
45) Try not to be dependent on another.

46) Be grateful and when not make a GRATITUDE list.
47) Don't feel sorry for yourself.
48) Seek knowledgeable help when you are troubled.
49) Review step ONE. "We were" is past tense, if we use our new tools. 

50) Discuss a paragraph out of the Big Book with someone.

51) Turn your will over to God, knowing some action is needed by you. 

52) Say Thank you at the end of each day.
53) Plant the "recovery" seed and accept the rest.
54) Don't try to test your will power Once a pickle always a pickle.

55) Live TODAY, not YESTERDAY, not TOMORROW.
56) Remember that God alone sets the element of QUALTIY and Quantity of time. 

57) Remember your addiction is - cunning, baffling and powerful.
58) Give yourself credit for something good you accomplished today.
59) Love someone else first, then love yourself.
60) Share your experience, strength and hope.
61) Cherish your recovery.
62) Dump negative thinking.
63) Get plenty of "restful" sleep.
64) Stay sober for you - not someone else
65) Practice rigorous honesty with yourself and others.
66) Remember HALT, Hungry, Angry, Lonely or Tired.
67) Forget the old saying "don't do this for one year"

Only God can measure your quality and quantity of time and sobriety. 

68) Get a sponsor and use him/her to learn how to LIVE the 12 steps
69) Know that no matter what your problems, someone's had them before.

Don't be afraid to share, as a problem shared is one 1/2 solved.
70) Strive for progress not perfection.
71) When in doubt ask questions. The only stupid question is the one not asked.
72) Live step 11 with prayer and meditation.
73) Balance yourself.
74) Don't use other things obsessively as a maintenance program.
75) Learn to take spot check inventories.
76) Remember the fact that NOTHING will make you act out again.
77) Know that it’s okay to be human, to make mistakes.
78) Be kind to yourself. Don't be hard on yourself.
79) Take the disease seriously! It can kill you.
80) Know that whatever it is that's causing pain - it shall pass.
81) Smile at the worse problem and see what you can learn.
82) Don't give away more than you can afford too.
83) Don't stay inside too much. Get out, go somewhere!
84) Get a home group and attend it regularly.
85) Don't expect life to be all roses, even in sobriety. Without problems there would be no use for our existence. 86) Remember step one begins "WE" You are not alone.
87) Be willing to go to any lengths to stay and be sober.
88) Know that no matter how bleak and dark your past may be, it will get better!
89) Read the Promises in the Big Book page 83 and 84.
90) Don't be in a hurry.
91) Watch out for your EGO.
92) Protect your sobriety at all costs. Keep the light on you.
93) Learn to listen, not just hear. Be open-minded and nonjudgmental.
94) Don't use bad language and dishonor your Creator, Giver of Sobriety, God.
95) If the rest of the world looks bad, check yourself out first.
96) Show gratitude for your clean and sober time.
97) When times get tough.....go to tons of meetings and share!
98) Remember you can cut down any fear, into half or none, by discussing it with another individual.
99) Try to manage your money, budget yourself.
100) Look for those LIVING the 12 steps, not just talking them. 


Links International


Hookers for Jesus "is an international, faith-based organization that is committed to abolishing modern day slavery--the realities of human sex trafficking, sexual violence, and exploitation linked to pornography and the commercial sex industry". (taken from their homepage. We highly recommend it!)

Resources

Crucified

Hello Guys

I've been meaning to share this with you for some time now but I figured that I've already said so much, I didn't want to overload you.

This is something that totally transformed my life and has made my walk with the Lord so much better. Ever since I was taught this truth, I have gained new insight and victory into areas I found problematic in my life.

As you may have noticed, I'm not perticulary keen on focusing exclusively on sexuality. Such an approach I believe gives the impression that we're one dimensional (which we are not!) and it also alienates us from the rest of believers. I shall therefore present this teaching not just in an effort to help you understand your struggles with sexuality better, but that you may also understand other areas of your self better.

Colossians 3:2-3 says: "Set your affection on things above, not on things on the earth. For ye are dead, and your life is hid with Christ in God.“ (King James Version)

I don't know about you, but I never really understood this passage of Scripture and all the others that also speak of believers dying very well. I understood the atonement of Yeshua on the Cross for our sins and ressurection well, but I never understood when the apostle Paul refered to himself as being dead, especially when he says he's been crucified with Christ. Being very analytical person by nature, I attempted many times to solve this mystery on my own, but without much success. So I waited on God to shed some light on the subject.

Was I blown out of my socks when I was explained the meaning of this concept. Dr. Ed Murphy, in his book, Handbook for Spiritual Warfare, explains this glorious truth so beautifully. For the first time I realized what Scripture meant when it says believers died.

So who died? The old man. "But if the old man is dead," you ask, "How come I still have sinful desires of all sorts?" Here comes the best part. When you expereinced new birth, the old you (in my case the old Adam) was supernaturally crucified with Christ on the cross. If you think I'm exaggerating, read Romans 6:5-7:

"For if we have been planted together in the likeness of his death, we shall be also in the likeness of his resurrection: Knowing this, that our old man is crucified with him, that the body of sin might be destroyed, that henceforth we should not serve sin. For he that is dead is freed from sin." (King James Version)

This is the beauty of the gospel. Old Tom, old John, old Henry, etc., have all been crucified. They no longer exist. They're all dead. The sexually broken man that you once were, was killed and done away with the minute you accepted Him as your Saviour, when you first believed. Even if you backslidded, the old self was not resurected.
(I shall explain this later as we go along.) That's not all, Scripture tells that when this old man was destroyed, `you received a new man or new nature `was given to you. Scripture says that you are now “born of God”. (1 John 5:18-19. King James Version).

"But I still have so much sinful desires!" you say. "My flesh is very much still alive. My battles with pornography, sexuality is still very much alive and real. Does it now then mean that I have not been crucified with Christ and therefore not born again?" Absolutely not. If you trust in Jesus as your Saviour, you are born again. "But how come the sinful desires of my flesh are yet still alive?"

If you read Romans 6:5-7 again, you'll see the Bible talks about your old self that was crucified and not your physical flesh. (Rom. 7:14-23) The two are totally different from one another.Your flesh on the other hand is still very much alive. The old self is that Adamic cursed wicked part of you that could do nothing else but sin. The way I see it, this old self was personified just as the new man is personified, just as the flesh is personified (Gal.5:19-21). It therefore wasn't a force or some impersonal energy but a person with will, desires and mind. It's difficult to understand but nevertheless fascinating.

Neil T Anderson explains our new state of affairs so wisely. He writes that the flesh is the tendency that is in every person and pushes us to act independent of God and to focus only on ourselves. This is how an unsaved person acts – worshipping the creature more than the Creator. However, those who are born again are different. Their old self died and their new self lives now. As we might have spent years far away fro God, secular experiences shaped our brain with things that are not of God. So even though our old self is dead, our flesh still works against God – or independent from God. (Neil T. Anderson, “The Bondage Breaker”. Harvest House Publ. ISBN-10: 0736918140. ISBN-13: 978-0736918145):


"The flesh is the tendency within each person to operate independant of God and to center his interest on himself. An unsaved person functions totally in the flesh (Romans 8:7-8), worshipping and serving the creature more than the Creator (Rom. 1:25) When you are born again, your old self died and your new self came to life...{but} during the years you spent separated from God, your worldly experiences thorougly programmed your brain with thought patterns, memory traces, responces and habits which are alien to God. So even
though your OLD SKIPPER* is gone, your flesh remains in opposition to God as a preprogrammed propensity from sin, which is living independant of God" Bondage Braker (Eugene, Ore.: Harvest House, 199) pg 79-80 *-capital letters MINE

When one reads this you begin to understand why unsaved people can do nothing but sin. They have a corrupted "person" that is riding on the back of the flesh- that is also unredeemable. However, we who have received a new nature, through new birth, who desire the things of the Spirit, no longer have an excuse to continue in sin. That is why 1 John 3:9 says:

"Whosoever is born of God doth not commit sin; for his seed remaineth in him: and he cannot sin, because he is born of God." (King James Version)

We were once utter slaves to sin, but now we've been giving a new man that can do and choose the things of God. Our old selves couldn't.
Do you see the implications? We no longer have to battle with the old man. He's dead. We still however have to battle with our flesh, that is totally corrupt. Furthermore, our brains must also be given new software becuase it still runs on old evil software. This is where sanctification comes in. Please listen to me. I don't care what any body says, sanctification is not an easy process! I get so fed up when I hear well known 'Christian' speakers tell people that they can change their lives instantly. They give you a formulas and principles (that usually involves money) and guarantee that you will be healed, you will be blessed, you will receive a break through.

Thirty years ago David Martin Lloyed-Jones in his book “The Christian Warfare: An Exposition of Ephesians 6:10 to 13” (Baker Pub Group. ISBN-10: 0801055741. ISBN-13: 978-0801055744), wrote about cults offering an instant blessing. This short cut allows them to win adherents. There is no growth concerning grace or growth in the knowlegde of the Lord. Also no mentioning of salvation with fear and trembling. You go to perfection in an instant. No problems, no struggle, no difficulties:

"Another great characteristic of the cults is that they offer you a cure, the blessing all at once. It is the short cut method always; that is why it wins adherents...the cults do not talk about 'growth in grace, and in the knowledge of the Lord'; they do not talk about work out your salvation with fear and trembling'; and there is no mortification of the body and of the flesh. It is immediate arrival at perfection; and all you have to do is to keep you there. All problems have gone, there is no struggle left, there is no difficulty to solve; it has all been done and done at once. Short cuts!"


I mention this because I know false expectations lead to discouragement and discouragement ultimately, if not dealt with correctly, will lead to backslidding. It is my prayer that none of you will ever backslide into your old lives. That is why I want you to know that your road to freedom will be difficult and will involve actve fighting, struggling and resisting on your part. Better know what you're up against than to be caught off guard. I urge you not listen to the fools who promise you quick rememdies through useless formulas and vain Christain pop psychology. Forgive me if I sound harsh but when I see so many people being led astray by mere salesmanship, my blood begins to boil.

Even though our walk may not an easy walk, it is a blessed walk nevertheless. From my own experience, I can truly say that it's been worth the while. It's been extremely difficult at times but also glorious! Christ has really given us life and life in abundance. He has also given us the tools to fight for our inheritance. Where we once didn't have a chance against sexual struggles in our former states (before salvation), we now can supernaturally voluntary choose the things of the Spirit through our new man/nature.

If Satan has been condemming you about your recent failures by telling you that you arn't really a Christian because of your weak state, listen to this. If you thought you're still the same old perverted little dude you were before you got saved, listen to this. If you still despise yourself for the things you allowed yourself to do, listen to this wonderful timeless advice by Dr. D.M. Lloyed-Jones. He talks about the truth that as Christians we are already saved, We have already died with Jesus. We are already ‘in Christ’. We have been crucified with Him. This cruxifixion is not something we have to do. It happened already! We have been crucified – one and for ever! And as we died with Christ, we have also been risen with Him. That’s why satan attacks us so that we loose our confidence in our complete security in Jesus.


This is the finest tonic for any weak Christian....Remind yourself of the truth about yourself as a Christian, that you are already saved, that you ahve already died with Christ, that you are 'in Christ', that you will never be more saved spiritually than you are now. If you are a Christian at all, you are 'in Christ', you have been crucified with Him. Thus to be crucified is is not something you have to do, 'having believed'. Romans tell us what has happened to us, not what should happen to us. 'You have been'- it is in the aorist tense. 'Knowing this, that our old man has been crucified with Christ' once and for ever. Remind yourself of that . Remind yourself that, as you died with Christ, you have also risen with Him, that you are seated with Him in the heavenly places, and that the devil is therefore attacking you in order to shake your confidence in your complete security in Christ." Dr. D.M Lloyed-Jones


Paul says, "And such were some of you." (1 Cor. 6:9-11. King James Version. Emphasis added).

Begin to realize that you have been given a new nature that genuinely wants to do the things of the Spirit. Your old self is dead. Even though you may still do things that may be wrong, you can and never will be the sinner you used to be. Relapses are merely a sign of a need of sanctification (removing old programs that your old skipper installed) and not salvation. If you are also truly born again, you will eventually repent of a certain sin. Why? Because you've been given the ability to repent through the Spirit that now lives in you that empowers you.
We really have no excuses not to live holy lives.

My God open the understanding of our hearts and continue to lead to freedom from all bondages.

Grace to you all

André




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“To be pure, to remain pure, can only come at a price, the price of knowing God and loving him enough to do his will. He will always give us the strength we need to keep purity as something beautiful for God. Purity is the fruit of prayer.”

Blessed Mother Teresa

Remember:

The only reason why people don't find freedom from same-sex attractions is because they don't believe it can be done!

1 Corinthians 6:18-20 New International Version (NIV): "Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies."

HA: New Homepage!

Homosexuals Anonymous has a new homepage:

http://www.homosexuals-anonymous.com/

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Is Change Possible?

To make it very clear: Yes, the Jason ministry definitely believes that change is possible. We believe in God and His power to change our hearts and minds.

Matthew 19:26 King James Version (KJV):

"26 But Jesus beheld them, and said unto them, With men this is impossible; but with God all things are possible."

"Whoever says that a person with SSA cannot change does not know my God."

Pastor Paul

Oceania and Africa

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Was ist das eigentlich, "Homosexualitaet"?

Kurz gesagt, die Tatsache, dass sich jemand überwiegend und über einen längeren Zeitraum hinweg in sexueller und/oder emotionaler Hinsicht zum eigenen Geschlecht hingezogen fühlt. Wir bevorzugen aber den Begriff "gleichgeschlechtliche Neigungen". Zum einen ist der Begriff "Homosexualität" (als eigenständige Form der Sexualität) noch gar nicht so alt. In klinischer Hinsicht konzentriert er sich vor allem auf die sexuelle Anziehung, was jedoch zu kurz gegriffen ist, da man hier die emotionale Zuneigung außer Acht lässt. Zum anderen sind wir als Christen der Überzeugung, dass es nur eine Gott-gegebene Form der Sexualität gibt - und das ist die Heterosexualität. Ja, es gibt Menschen, die - aus welchen Gründen auch immer (und seien sie "genetisch") - gleichgeschlechtlich empfinden, wir sehen dies aber nicht als eine eigenständige Identität, sondern als Teil der Heterosexualität an. Dies bedeutet keine Abwertung von Menschen mit gleichgeschlechtlichen Neigungen oder eine Minder-Bewertung unseres Empfindens - ganz im Gegenteil. Wir sehen uns als Teil von etwas, das größer ist als wir (Gottes heterosexuelle Schöpfung) und sind weder besser noch schlechter als andere Menschen noch sehen wir uns als etwas Besonderes an und blicken auch nicht auf die herab, die ihre gleichgeschlechtlichen Neigungen ausleben. Auch konzentriert sich unser Leben nicht auf unser sexuelles und/oder emotionales Empfinden, sondern auf den, dem wir nachfolgen und der uns eine teuer erkaufte Freiheit geschenkt hat, damit auch wir frei sein können: Jesus Christus.

Homosexuals Anonymous

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The 14 Steps

1. We admitted that we were powerless over our homosexuality and that our emotional lives were unmanageable.

2. We came to believe the love of God, who forgave us and accepted us in spite of all that we are and have done.

3. We learned to see purpose in our suffering, that our failed lives were under God's control, who is able to bring good out of trouble.

4. We came to believe that God had already broken the power of homosexuality and that He could therefore restore our true personhood.

5. We came to perceive that we had accepted a lie about ourselves, an illusion that had trapped us in a false identity.

6. We learned to claim our true reality that as humankind, we are part of God's heterosexual creation and that God calls us to rediscover that identity in Him through Jesus Christ, as our faith perceives Him.

7. We resolved to entrust our lives to our loving God and to live by faith, praising Him for our new unseen identity, confident that it would become visible to us in God's good time.

8. As forgiven people free from condemnation, we made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves, determined to root out fear, hidden hostility, and contempt for the world.

9. We admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs and humbly asked God to remove our defects of character.

10. We willingly made direct amends wherever wise and possible to all people we had harmed.

11. We determined to live no longer in fear of the world, believing that God's victorious control turns all that is against us into our favor, bringing advantage out of sorrow and order from disaster.

12. We determined to mature in our relationships with men and women, learning the meaning of a partnership of equals, seeking neither dominance over people nor servile dependency on them.

13. We sought through confident praying, and the wisdom of Scripture for an ongoing growth in our relationship with God and a humble acceptance of His guidance for our lives.

14. Having had a spiritual awakening, we tried to carry this message to homosexual people with a love that demands nothing and to practice these steps in all our lives' activities, as far as lies within us.

While the Homosexuals Anonymous Fellowship was inspired by the Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous, they are not really an adaptation. Rather, they were created specifically for this Fellowship, and should not be construed otherwise. AA, which is a program concerned only with recovery from alcoholism, and is not in any way affiliated with this Fellowship.

Homosexuals Anonymous

Arthur Goldberg

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Go Sin No More!

When Jesus told the woman to "go sin no more", what did He mean? Did He mean that she would not sin? I don't think so. I think that Jesus was saying don't sin wilfully like you did before. We have sins of omission, we forget to worship god and sins of comission, we comit sin and know it's wrong. Jesus sets us free from our past sins and asks us as Christians to follow Him .. how often we fail to do this.
Yet to sin and induce another to sin as well compounds the sin (makes the sin worse). To know how to do right and then do wrong is sin. And we fall short of the glory of God, God calls us to be 'holy' as He is holy. Our sin takes us away from God and we break our fellowship with God. Sin destroys our union with God. Of course we can confess our sins to God and He will forgive us and cleanse us, isn't that great to know. But we should as the Bible tells us to, "avoid sin", as God understands the ramification of sin in our life.
We must practice our Christian faith. Going to church will do noone any good, unless they are 'born again'. Reading many books may give us knowledge but unless we apply the knowledge gained our reading is in vain, much like our Christianity, unless we practice it we are still "without hope and without God' in this world.
Believe me I know that sin is powerful, yet I have found a power greater than sin that has set me free. You also can attain freedom by reading and doing and avoiding all places where you may find sin.

Bill B.

 

If

If you were a Facebook member, and if you received a message to accept Jesus as your friend, would you?

If you received Him as a friend and you had the opportunity to say Like Him, would you share Him with your friends?

If He shared some awesome messages on Facebook with you, that could save lives, would you tell your other Facebook friends?

If Jesus asked you to tell your Facebook friends about Him, would you be to ashamed to do so?

If Jesus came to your door today, would you let Him in?

If Jesus walked into your door, would you let Him be your friend?

If Jesus shared a life altering message with you, that could save lives, would you tell your friends?

If you had the opportunity to tell others about Him, would you be too ashamed to do so?

If Jesus allows you a glimpse of Heaven, would He be ashamed of you?

If Jesus opened the door for you to see the Father, would He be your friend?

If Jesus asked the Father to be your friend, would He be ashamed of you?

André

www.thewordswithin.org

 

My Prayers for You

(An Email to A Christian Online-Support Group)


If I were to have but only one breath left in my life knowingly, I believe I would not ask and pray to God for another for myself. But I would pray and ask that He would allow me but a few more breaths to reach out and plead for you my brothers to look to Him with all of your heart, with all of your soul, seeking, searching for Him, to fill you full of the Holy Spirit. That in doing so, you would find the maker of your life, and turn to Him, fully, seeking and desiring the milk of Life, His son Jesus Christ. I would plead that He would give you but a few more breaths so that in that short time, you might repent of your sinful ways, as I have pleaded and prayed for myself many a time.
I have prayed many a time to take the place of some of you, and be condemned to hell rather than seeing you to fall into the pits. I am not worthy of such a task, but if God would but allow it , I would for you. Such is my love for the lost. I am but a servant of His, yet, weak and lowly, a sinner such as you. I do not seek gratitude for my love for others. But what I seek, is what God Himself seeks in others., He wants you to humble yourself and admit, that you are a sinner as I am, in need of a Savior. He want you to surrender all to Him, all your love, all your sins, all your weaknesses, all your cares, all your worries. None of us can carry these burdens alone. We need Him.

If I could, I believe I would hang on the cross for you. And yet I know, I cannot. For only a righteous Lamb as Jesus can accomplish and do that feat. But if I could I would try for you.

I cry many a tear for you all believe or not. I anguish that some are only here for a time and will fall away, as we have seen many a time. And yet we have some, who come as lowly children, who come and believe, and grasp the promises of God, and are transformed into His image. For some it is a quick transformation, for others, it is much slower, not because of their own lack of will, but because of the will of God for His own reason for which we may never understand on this side of eternity. Never-the- less, it is not for us to question why, but to accept and do our best to live for Him.

Until He takes us home to be with Him, I will continue to pray for you all , that he will keep you and hold you and mold you to be the man you were made to be. And until He comes I will plead for you all, and if I can, I will step in to hell for you, if it would be His will.

your other brother from another mother

Homosexuals Anonymous

Homosexuals Anonymous Fellowship Services

www.homosexuals-anonymous.com

USA

Homosexuals Anonymous is an international organization dedicated to serving the recovery needs of men and women who struggle with unwanted same sex attraction.

This fellowship of men and women, who through their common spiritual, intellectual and emotional experiences have chosen to help each other live in freedom from homosexuality.

Welcome to our website

If you are a person who struggles with unwanted same sex attraction, you are not alone Homosexuals Anonymous and many other related ministries, counselors and therapists provide valuable resources that can be of great use to you.

Remember always that while no one chooses to have same sex attraction, many do choose to diminish and eliminate those feelings of attraction. All people have the right to self determination, the right to choose for themselves the aspects that comprise their identity. Through HA, you will meet many people who see their identity as being rooted in their faith and not in their unwanted desires and behaviors.

If you are a parent, relative or friend of someone who struggles with unwanted same sex attraction, you can find helpful resources they will appreciate.

If you are a parent, friend or relative of someone who embraces and lives a gay lifestyle, you can find support, encouragement and hope in the material you will find available to you in website. If you are interested in online support groups or forming a local parents support group, please contact us and let us know how we can serve you.

If you are a minister, counselor or therapist looking for a support group and other resources to serve the needs of a counselee wanting freedom from homosexuality, then please read through our website. In your exploration you will learn who we are and how we can help you.

New Book by Dr. Douglas McIntyre!

Broken Chains: A journey of recovery from ssa, anger, addiction and child abuse

Dr. Douglas E. McIntyre (Author)

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Language: English

ISBN-10: 1481265334

ISBN-13: 978-1481265331

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Will He?

Is this the day that the Lord may come calling home His own? Are you prepared? Are you ready for Him to come calling? Will He find you wanting? Will He find you with your fingers sliding through porn on the Internet, your mind wandering in fantasies, your hands in inappropriate places? Will He find you un-prepared for His coming? Will you be ashamed to be seen by Him coming through your door?

Will He find you with your heart prepared to receive Him? Will He?

Andre

 

Cedar

Now, you may ask what burning cedar and sin have in common, or have one with the other other.

This morning I fed my wood stove early in the morning with some small cedar blocks to boost the heat output. Later on when I opened the door to add more firewood, bits of cedar hot coals spit out onto the floor.

It crossed my mind at that time that sin is just like that. When we open the door to sin, a small fire begins to grow in you. The more you add to it's pleasures, the hotter it gets. And when you try to close the door on it on your own, you are able to control it for a short time. But later on as temptation arises and  you give in that temptation and open up the door once again, sin spits out at you with even more fury, consuming you. I had a hard time controlling the embers of coal that were spitting out at me. Each time I reached out and picked up one ember and opened the door to throw it back into the firebox, another ember spit out at me, and often a few more would
come at the same time, to the point that I was having a hard time to keep it under control. Isn't that just like sin. The more we play with it, the more it keeps coming at us.

The moral of this little story is, do not open the door to sin at any time. And if you have, then lock the door permanently to it, so that it cannot gain control over you ever again. The more you play with sin, the more it controls you. And the harder it is after the fact to get rid of it.

Remember, you cannot control sin, it controls you.

Andre

I Have Decided to Follow Jesus

"I have decided to follow Jesus. Though no one joins me, still I will follow."

Assam, north-east India, who held on to Jesus when being told to recounce his faith by the village chief. His wife was killed and Assam as well - while he was singing these words: "The cross before me, the world behind me." His strong faith kept on shining: The village chief and others in the village converted afterwards. (see: Wikipedia)

Freedom from SSA

Guys,

there are many professionals who are able to scientifically explain to you how to find freedom from same-sex attractions.

I am a simple man so I will try to tell you in simple terms.

Imagine a father who wants to teach his son how to ride a bike. He will not give him a lesson on the functioning of each single part, where it came from and what it is made of. Nor will he lecture on how the human body works and how the mind coordinates things. He loves his sonny and wants him to be able to ride that bike on his own.

Of course, he could let him continue to ride with additional wheels, but this is not what the father wants. Daddy knows that his son will likely fall a couple of times. There will be tears and some pain as well. But as a loving father he buys his son a bike and takes him out to teach him how to ride.

Now the son does not expect a big lesson or a manual to start with. Yes, he might be somewhat scared as he does not know what to expect and how to handle this bike without additional wheels that keep it stable. But he knows that he can fully trust his father. He loves his daddy more than anything - and daddy loves him. So he takes a courageous first step and lets daddy show him how to do it.

Daddy will fist be there all the time to hold his son while he rides. However, step by step he will let him run a little bit on his own.

Sonny will ride this first bits all shaky and insecure, but then again he trusts his daddy, so he manages to do it - sort of.

Sometimes he will fall and have his knee scratched. Tears will roll down his cheek, but daddy will hold him im his arms and encourage him to take another effort.

Day by day little sonny will drive a little longer all by himself, until he finally manages to ride that bike completely alone. Daddy will be so proud of his son and his son will come running into his arms, thanking his beloved daddy for keeping his promise to be there all the time when things were getting rough on him. Daddy told him that he will ride that bike and all his little son had to do is to trust him just enough that he goes for it.

Sometimes all that keeps us from succeeding is the lack of belief that it can be done.

Rob

Additional Copyright Info Joe Dallas


Here are some of the books by Joe Dallas some articles on this homepage are based on. We recommend to buy them:

When Homosexuality Hits Home: What to Do When a Loved One Says They're Gay [Paperback]
Joe Dallas (Author)
Paperback: 192 pages
Publisher: Harvest House Publishers (July 15, 2004)
Language: English
ISBN-10: 9780736912013
ISBN-13: 978-0736912013
ASIN: 0736912010

Desires in Conflict: Hope for Men Who Struggle with Sexual Identity [Paperback]
Joe Dallas (Author)
Paperback: 256 pages
Publisher: Harvest House Publishers; Upd Sub edition (July 1, 2003)
Language: English
ISBN-10: 9780736912112
ISBN-13: 978-0736912112
ASIN: 0736912118


The Gay Gospel?: How Pro-Gay Advocates Misread the Bible [Paperback]
Joe Dallas (Author)
Paperback: 272 pages
Publisher: Harvest House Publishers; annotated edition edition (February 1, 2007)
Language: English
ISBN-10: 0736918345
ISBN-13: 978-0736918343

A Strong Delusion [Paperback]
Joe Dallas (Author)
Paperback: 245 pages
Publisher: Harvest House Publishers (September 1996)
Language: English
ISBN-10: 1565074319
ISBN-13: 978-1565074316


The Game Plan: The Men's 30-Day Strategy for Attaining Sexual Integrity [Paperback]
Joe Dallas (Author)
Paperback: 256 pages
Publisher: Thomas Nelson; 1 edition (July 19, 2005)
Language: English
ISBN-10: 0849906334
ISBN-13: 978-0849906336


The Complete Christian Guide to Understanding Homosexuality: A Biblical and Compassionate Response to Same-Sex Attraction [Paperback]
Joe Dallas (Author), Nancy Heche (Author)
Paperback: 512 pages
Publisher: Harvest House Publishers (July 1, 2010)
Language: English
ISBN-10: 0736925074
ISBN-13: 978-0736925075

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