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Masturbation

Masturbation

Was ist das eigentlich, Masturbation?

Nun, bei der Masturbation erregt man sich durch direktes körperliches Reizen bzw. direkte körperliche Manipulation an den Geschlechtsorganen selbst, um damit sexuelle Lust hervorzurufen. In der Regel - wenn auch nicht zwangsweise - geht Masturbation bis zum Orgasmus. Andere Wörter für Masturbation wären etwa: Selbstbefriedigung, Ipsation oder Onanie - wobei dieser Ausdruck weniger geeignet ist

 

Und warum ist der Begriff "Onanie" weniger geeignet?

"Onanie" beruft sich auf die Sünde des Onan im Alten Testament (Gen. 38,8-10). Hier liegt aber keine Masturbation vor, da Onan lediglich mit der Frau seines verstorbenen Bruders keine Kinder zeugen wollte. Er vollzog den "Coitus Interruptus", das heißt er "ließ den Samen zur Erde fallen und verderben".

 

Warum sprechen sich manche Menschen gegen ein Verbot der Masturbation aus?

Hier werden vor allem Argumente aus dem Bereich der Medizin, der Biologie oder auch der Psychologie angebracht.

 

Warum sollte man als Christ denn überhaupt gegen Masturbation sein?

Masturbation geht schlichtweg am Plan Gottes für menschliche Sexualität vorbei. Sexualität braucht auch ein "Gegenüber" - also einen anderen Menschen. In der Bibel wird Sexualität nur im Kontext einer heterosexuellen, monogamen und lebenslangen Ehe zwischen Mann und Frau befürwortet. Und dies zum Besten aller Beteiligten - nicht zuletzt der daraus eventuell hervorgehenden Kinder!

 

Ist Masturbation dann eine schwere Sünde? Wie ist Masturbation denn dann zu beurteilen?

Es gibt Menschen, die Masturbation eher für ein Symptom halten, das auf Mangelerscheinungen in ganz anderen Beeichen verweist. Ein Kennzeichen für Masturbation mag vielleicht sein, dass wir heute denken, dass jedes Verlangen und jeder Wunsch, den wir haben, auch sofort erfüllt werden muss. Ein bloßes "Verbot" würde hier allerdings nicht unbedingt etwas bringen. Manche entwickelten auch Angstvorstellungen und verfielen so in eine Art "Zwangsonanie". Es bring hier vielleicht mehr, Gottes Plan und Sinn für menschliche Sexualität zu vermitteln sowie auf die oft dahinter stehenden Bedürfnisse einzugehen. Manche Menschen benutzen Masturbation etwa als eine Art "Schmerz- oder Betäubungsmittel" gegen Ärger, Verletzungen, Missbrauch, Langeweile usw. Sich dessen bewusst zu werden und gleichzeitig zu verstehen, dass Gott zu unserem eigenen Besten vorgesehen hat, dass Sexualität ein Gegenüber, also einen anderen Menschen braucht, ist unabdingbar.

 

Was muss man bei jungen Menschen besonders beachten?

Junge Menschen sind in ihrer sexuellen Entwicklung und Identitätsfindung noch nicht gefestigt. Schnell flüchtet man aus der Realität, fixiert sich auf diverse Fantasien (die man eventuell auch versucht, in die Tat umzusetzen), man bekommt zwar eine "Erleichterung", aber nicht die, die für menschliche Sexualität vorgesehen ist und entwickelt so vielleicht völlig falsche Vorstellungen und Erwartungen. Andere wiederum mögen versucht werden, lethargisch zu werden und sich einfach nur gehen zu lassen.

 

Manchmal - wenn auch eher selten - ist Masturbation auch ein Notsignal, das auf Überlastungen und Vernachlässigungen seelischer und emotionaler Art in Verbindung mit einer lustfeindlichen Grundeinstellung hinweist. Masturbation kann so auch zum Zwanghaften werden. Hier liegt das Problem nicht nur im Akt des Masurbierens selbst, sondern in der Einstellung der eigenen Person gegenüber (siehe auch E. Drewermann, Psychoanalyse und Moraltheologie, Bd. 2: Wege und Umwege der Liebe, Mainz 1983, S. 183).

Masturbation kann also durchaus auch ein Symptom oder Signal sein und als solches verdient es auch näherer Interpretation, besonders was die Frage der ethischen Beurteilung betrifft.

 

(Quelle: http://www.fernkurswuerzburg.de/)


Eure Leiber sind Glieder Christi

Schwestern und Brüder!
Der Leib ist aber nicht für die Unzucht da,
   sondern für den Herrn,
und der Herr für den Leib.
Gott hat den Herrn auferweckt;
er wird durch seine Macht auch uns auferwecken.

Wisst ihr nicht, dass eure Leiber Glieder Christi sind?
Wer sich an den Herrn bindet,
   ist e i n Geist mit ihm.

Hütet euch vor der Unzucht!
Jede andere Sünde, die der Mensch tut,
   bleibt außerhalb des Leibes.
Wer aber Unzucht treibt,
   versündigt sich gegen den eigenen Leib.

Oder wisst ihr nicht,
   dass euer Leib ein Tempel des Heiligen Geistes ist,
   der in euch wohnt und den ihr von Gott habt?
Ihr gehört nicht euch selbst;
denn um einen teuren Preis seid ihr erkauft worden.
Verherrlicht also Gott in eurem Leib!

(1 Kor 6,13c-15a.17-20)

 

 

Masturbation - der große Selbstbetrug

Gerade bei der Masturbation, also der Selbstbefriedigung, sehen wir am besten, wie leicht wir uns selbst betrügen - oder betrügen lassen.

Einige Beispiele für populäre Lügen:

- "Ich kann jederzeit damit aufhören und ich kann selbst bestimmen und kontrollieren, wann ich es tue!" (Tatsächlich? Na, dann versuche doch einmal, aufzuhören!)

- "Ich tue doch niemandem weh, wenn ich mit Fantasien masurbiere!" (Da war Jesus aber anderer Meinung!)

- "Es ist gut für dieGesundheit. Wer nicht masturbiert, bekommt Probleme mit der Prostata!" (Fern liegt es mir, an dieser Stelle medizinische Diskussionen zu führen. Nur ein Punkt: Dann müssten ja alle Priester und männlichen Ordensleute Prostata-Probleme haben. Warum ist das nicht so?)

- "Masturbation ist doch harmlos. Es ist ja kein Sex!" (Nein? Erstens kennt unser Gehirn nicht den Unterschied zwischen tatsächlichem Sex und Masturbation mit Fantasien. Es registriert nur, dass ein bestimmter Reiz - etwa einnachkter Mann- zu einem Orgasmus führt.Fragt einen Fachmann! Zweitens kommt es nicht gerade selten vor, dass wir unseren Fantasien bei der Masturbation freien Lauf lassen. Diese extremen Fantasien führen zu intensiveren Orgasmen, die man früher oder später auch in die Realität umsetzen will. Leicht verwechselt man auch Fantasie und Realität - etwa wenn man zusätzlich Pornos sieht und als heterosexueller Mann denkt, Frauen stehen tatsächlich auf solche Praktiken.)

- "Ich habe heute nicht wirklich masturbiert, ich hatte ja keinen Orgasmus!" (So ein Unsinn! In dem Moment, in dem du "Hand an dich legst" - oder vielleicht schon in dem Moment, in dem du dich mit Gedanken stimulierst oder deinen Empfindungen einfach nur freien Lauf lässt - befriedigst du dich selbst!)

- "Ich will ja gar nicht masturbieren, ich liege nur nackt im Bett / provoziere nur eine Erektion!" (Es fängt immer mit einem "nur" oder "bloß" an. Selbst wenn man anfangs "nur" dies oder jenes tun will - tief drinnen weißman doch, dass es nicht dabei bleibt und dass man sich bewusst "mehr" aussetzt. Wer mit dem Feuer spielt, verbrennt sich schnell!)

- "Es ist doch einfach nur ein wenig Spaß!" (Da fängt es an: Menschliche Sexualität ist nicht zum Privatvergnügen eines einzelnen gedacht, sondern immer auf ein "du", also einen Menschen des anderen Geschlechts bezogen! Zwei Menschen, die in der Ehe ein Fleisch werden - und deren Liebe so stark wird, dass sie ihr neun Monate später einen Namen geben müssen...)

- "Das ist doch eine prüde Sicht von Sexualität!" (Wirklich? Aber die vielen zerbrochenen Beziehungen, die geschiedenen Ehen, die ungewollten Schwangerschaften, die enorm hohe Zahl an ansteckenden Geschlechtskrankheiten, die immer extremer werdenden Sexpraktiken, die schrittweise Legalisierung von Formen der Sexualität, die zu allen Zeiten in allen Kulturen abgelehnt wurden - all das ist in Ordnung? Na, dann sind wir aber lieber "prüde"!)

- "Ich will doch nur Spannung abbauen!" (Das Problem bei dieser Einstellung: Man baut mit Masturbation nicht Spannung ab, sondern auf!)

Ein weiteres Problem bei Masturbation: Wir lernen, immer gleich eine "Belohnung" zu bekommen. Wir haben Lust auf Sex bzw. einen Orgasmus - also holen wir uns, was wir wollen. So werden wir schnell zum willenlosen Spielball unserer Lust.

Warum sich nicht in Selbstdisziplin üben? Das ist keine "Plage", sondern eine Tugend, die uns das wertschätzen lässt, zu dem Sexualität von Gott geschaffen wurde. Denn Sex ist nicht nur einfach "gut" oder gar "geil" - er ist heilig.

 

FAQ's Masturbation

Auf dieser Seite präsentieren wir unterschiedliche Sichtweisen zum Thema Masturbation sowie Links und hilfreiches Material dazu. Meine persönliche Meinung: Masturbation ist abzulehnen - selbst wenn sie außerhalb einer Ehe und ohne jegliche Fantasien geschieht. Warum? Weil Sexualität nur in den geschützten Rahmen einer monogamen, heterosexuellen Ehe gehört. Jede andere außereheliche sexuelle Betätigung - aus welchem Grund auch immer - geht an diesem Ziel vorbei. Es ist ein Mythos, zu glauben, wir "brauchen" Masturbation. Wir haben unsere Körper und Gedanken vielleicht darauf konditioniert - brauchen tun wir sie aber bestimmt nicht. Ganz im Gegenteil: als Christinnen und Christen sind wir gerufen, nicht den Begierden unserer Körper nachzugeben und uns in Enthaltsamkeit und Askese zu üben.
 
 

 
Empfohlene Literatur & Quelle: "The Game Plan" by Joe Dallas
 





Das Wichtigste bei jeder Form der Therapie: Entscheide JETZT was du willst. Wenn du deine sexuelle Sünden überwinden und ein Mann (eine Frau) nach Gottes Willen werden willst, mache das zu deinem absoluten Ziel. Und verfolge dieses Ziel um jeden Preis - egal wie lange es dauert und wie schmerzhaft es sein wird. Du brauchst einen verzweifelten Willen zum Erfolg. Du bist ein Kämpfer und du hast dich nun entschlossen, in den Ring zu steigen und zu gewinnen!

 

 
"People suffer from sexual obsession when sexual thoughts control them rather than being able to control the thoughts."
[Earl Wilson, Sexual Sin' , p. 15] "To be controlled by anything other than Jesus Christ is idolatry and
therefore sinful." [ibid., p. 18]


 
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Das Problem, selbst wenn du ohne Fantasien masturbierst: du spielst mit dem Feuer. Du wirst noch Tage hinterher laufend sexuell erregt sein und die nächste "Gelegenheit" suchen. Und verwundbarer für Versuchungen. Es ist extrem schwer, das Ganze unter Kontrolle zu halten.








Praktische Tips

Hier zwei Tips von Teilnehmern unserer Selbsthilfegruppen:

1) Schreibe alles auf, wofür du dankbar sein solltest! Lies diese Liste regelmäßig durch!
2) Lege ein Tagebuch (oder einen Block im Internet) an. So kannst du nachverfolgen, was dazu geführt hat, dass du gefallen bist (sollte es denn soweit kommen) und außerdem kannst du so deinen Therapieerfolg kontrollieren. Außerdem ist es einfach interessant, zu lesen, was man früher gedacht und gefühlt hat!

 



Ex-Gay Ministries lehren doch nur Vermeidungs- und Ablenkungstechniken!
 
Unter anderem lehren wir auch solche Techniken, das ist wohl wahr. Zu vermeiden, was Versuchung provoziert, ist eine biblische Vorgehensweise:
Betritt nicht den Pfad der Frevler, beschreite nicht den Weg der Bösen! Meide ihn, geh nicht auf ihm, kehr dich von ihm ab und geh vorbei! (Sprüche 4:14-15, Einheitsübersetzung)
Meidet das Böse in jeder Gestalt! (1 Thessalonicher 5:22, Einheitsübersetzung)
Hütet euch vor der Unzucht! Jede andere Sünde, die der Mensch tut, bleibt außerhalb des Leibes. Wer aber Unzucht treibt, versündigt sich gegen den eigenen Leib.  (! Korinther 6:18, Einheitsübersetzung)
Das ist es, was Gott will: eure Heiligung. Das bedeutet, dass ihr die Unzucht meidet, (1 Theassalonicher 4:3, Einheitsübersetzung)
"Wenn dein Kopf aus Butter ist, bleib vom Feuer fern!" (Martin Luther)
 
Dass wir auch sehr viel anderes zu bieten haben, davon kann sich jeder überzeugen, der mal in unserer Homepage surft...





Dr. Mark Laaser sagt, dass die drei Säulen der Sexsucht folgende sind: Fantasie, Pornographie und Masturbation. „Fantasie wird erzeugt von einem Bedürfnis danach, tiefe Sehnsüchte zu erfüllen. Pornographie zeigt Bilder, wie das getan werden kann. Masturbation ist der physische Ausdruck der vielleicht einzigen Berührung oder Zuwendung, die der Süchtige erhält. Die drei sind in einem Zyklus angeordnet. Pornographie stimuliert Fantasie. Fantasie muss ausgedrückt werden. Masturbation erlaubt eine „Erleichterung“ dieses Bedürfnisses. Es gibt aber ein Problem in diesem Zyklus: Während sie vielleicht das physische Bedürfnis nach Sex befriedigt, befriedigt sie nie den emotionalen oder spirituellen Hunger, der tief in der Seele ruht. Süchtige haben nie gelernt, diesen Hunger auf gesunde Art und Weise zu stillen. Stattdessen versuchen sie, dieses Bedürfnis auf die leichteste und am ehesten durchführbare Methode zu befriedigen. Sex erlaubt dem Süchtigen, zu entkommen und damit zeitlich begrenzt mit diesen Gefühlen fertig zu werden. (...) Immer mehr sexuelle Aktivität jedoch erzeugt auch immer mehr negative Gefühle. Dieser Teufelskreis macht die Sexsucht zu einem degenerierenden Prozess. Sie wird schlimmer.“ (Mark Laaser, The Secret Sin)






Was tun, wenn dich jemand sexuell erregt? Bete für diesen Menschen! Übergib ihn Gott! Bitte Gott, ihn zu segnen!





Telefonketten

Ein Tip aus der Praxis: Telefonketten. Besonders wirkungsvoll bei Selbsthilfegruppen, durchaus aber auch privat machbar. Sobald jemand in Gefahr ist, seinen Versuchungen nachzugehen, ruft er einen anderen Bruder (bzw. bei Frauen eine Schwester) an oder schickt eine SMS und setzt so die Kette in Gang. Die anderen versuchen schnellstmöglichst zu reagieren und ihn/sie davon abzuhalten (anrufen, bei ihm/ihr vorbeischauen usw.). Außerdem beginnen die Brüder/Schwestern, für ihn/sie zu beten.

Sehr wirkungsvoll und hilfreich! Bestimmt kennst auch du Menschen, die das für dich tun würden - und für die du dasselbe tun könntest!

 




"Sometimes fear can be good. When you are afraid things are going to get worse if you don't do something, it can prompt you into action."
Spencer Johnson, MD, "Who Moved My Cheese?"




Bibelstellen zum Thema Masturbation in der Ehe:

1. Korinther 7:3-4 i.V.m. Römer 12:10, Philipper 2:3 und Galater 5:13







Nimm dir einen Zettel und schreibe auf, wie du bisher versucht hast, deine sexuellen Sünden zu verbergen. Welche Auswirkungen hatte das auf deine geistige und emotionale Verfassung sowie allgemein dein Selbstvertrauen und Selbstwertgefühl?
Wie denkst du, hat Gott versucht, deine Aufmerksamkeit auf dieses Verhalten zu lenken (Gewissen, Umstände, Heiliger Geist...)?






Wenn uns andere Körper auf unangemessene Weise sexuell anziehen, sollten wir uns an eines erinnern: auch diese Menschen sind Geschöpfe Gottes. Gottes Kinder. Unsere Brüder und Schwestern. Wir sollten dann für diese Menschen beten und sie Gott anvertrauen.
Es dürfte schwer sein, dann noch sexuelle Gefühle für sie zu haben...






Now, you may ask what burning cedar and sin have in common., or have one with the other other.

This morning I fed my wood stove early in the morning with some small cedar blocks to boost the heat output. Later on when I opened the door to add more firewood, bits of cedar hot coals spit out onto the floor.

It crossed my mind at that time that sin is just like that. When we open the door to sin, a small fire begins to grow in you. The more you add to it's pleasures, the hotter it gets. And when you try to close the door on it on your own, you are able to control it for a short time. But later on as temptation arises and  you give in that temptation and open up the door once again, sin spits out at you with even more fury, consuming you. I had a hard time controlling the embers of coal that were spitting out at me. Each time I reached out and picked up one ember and opened the door to throw it back into the firebox, another ember spit out at me, and often a few more would
come at the same time, to the point that I was having a hard time to keep it under control. Isn't that just like sin. The more we play with it, the more it keeps coming at us.

The moral of this little story is, do not open the door to sin at any time. And if you have, then lock the door permanently to it, so that it cannot gain control over you ever again. The more you play with sin, the more it controls you. And the harder it is after the fact to get rid of it.

Remember, you cannot control sin, it controls you.

andre




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Versuchung und Vergebung

Versuchung wird es immer geben. Es muss sie sogar geben. Auch christlicher Sicht trennt Versuchung die Spreu vom Weizen. Was wir dagegen tun können? Es gibt Waffen, die jede Versuchung meistern helfen: Das Wort Gottes und das inständige Gebet. Die "Rüstung", um in den Kampf zu ziehen - und zu gewinnen!

Als Christen dürfen wir auch auf Vergebung hoffen. Sogar wir, die wir viel und häufig gesündigt haben, dürfen Vergebung erfahren. Und wie Jesus uns bereits gesagt hat: wem viel vergeben wurde, der liebt Jesus auch umso mehr.

Wir sollten diese Vergebeung also auch annehmen und uns selbst vergeben. Und im Gegenzug denen, die uns verletzt haben.

Dass wir mit unseren christlichen Prinzipien nicht immer auf Verständnis und Gegenliebe stoßen werden, hat uns Jesus ebenfalls klar gemacht - kurz bevor er ans Kreuz geschlagen wurde.

Wenn die Menschen schon damals so gehandelt haben, als das Holz noch grün war, wie werden sie erst handeln, wenn das Holz trocken ist...



Guys,

I'd like to remind you of how important discipline is for recovery. Holding on to your program, your daily structure. Pursuing your goal - no matter how long it takes and how hard it will be. Learning to control your lust - and not let it control you.

God bless you,

Robert








Sin is comparable to a mud puddle.

Okay!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
How so?
 
Well, remember when you were a little boy, and your parents always told you to stay out of the puddles.
 
But why? Simply, because they do not want you to get wet, your clothes to get wet, and mom does not have to wash dirty muddy clothes.
 
Okay. Now you are grown up. You to now have a little boy. And, one day you are walking with your little boy down the street just after a heavy rain. As you are walking along, you spot way ahead a mud puddle taking up the space of half the sidewalk ahead. As you approach it you like any other parent, instruct your little boy to stay out of the puddle.
 
Now if you have a normal boy, what does he do? He, seeing the puddle runs up to it and just as he is about to step into it, you yell out;;Stay out of the water!"
 
So the little boy, stops in his tracks just on the edge of the puddle. But, of course, the temptation to walk into it works on  his mind and cries, "go for it, walk right in." But, he hesitates a bit and looks at it and knowing that dad is right behind, he begins to skirt the puddle, but drags one foot into the puddle just a little bit. Did you see that? Though he was told not to step into the puddle, he drags his foot just slightly into the puddle. Did he disobey his father? Sure he did. Well, one would argue, "No, he did not walk into the water. But, in fact, he did disobey his father. He was told to stay out of the water. True, though he did not walk fully into the puddle, he did drag one foot into the puddle.
 
So, the father lets it slide by, seeing as the boy did not walk fully into the puddle, he does not discipline the boy.
 
So, onward they go continuing on with their walk. And of course there are more puddles up ahead. So, as they approach the next puddle, again the father tells the little boy not to walk into the water. So, of course, and again, the little guy runs up ahead, and stops just before stepping into the mud puddle. This time he thinks, well I got away with dragging my foot into it the last time, so maybe I can just walk around the edge with both feet this time.
 
Well, this time dad gives the little fellow a scolding, but does not get very upset. And on they go until he sees another puddle ahead, but says nothing figuring this time the boy will stay out seeing as he scolded the little guy this last time.
 
So, yet once again the little boy runs up ahead, and ........................................................................
 
Yup, you guessed it. This time he runs full fledge into the puddle.
 
Now is this scenario, a lot like temptations and sin? You see, for most things in our life, we are told ahead of time what is wrong and what is right. God has also written it in our hearts, what is right, and what is wrong. Rom. 2:15; Heb. 8:15; 10:16But, We like to be in control and want to do what we feel like doing, even though we know that sins are wrong.
 
So, often enough we are having a great day, walking along our merry way until we see a mud puddle. (sin) Now we are told in our hearts and by the Father, through His H.S. that we best not go there. Stay out of it. but temptations says, go ahead. have a look. It can't hurt to just have a little look. So we go on ahead and drag our feet along the edge, not fully walking into it, yet getting oh so close.
 
Well, that was not so bad, we say to ourselves. Nothing happened, I did not get wet, really, and I did not hurt no one. So we go on again and yet around the corner we spot something again that attracts our attention. Now as we approach we think, well, the last time was okay, so why not look just a little closer this time. So we approach it and this time, though we go in with both feet just around the edge, we do not go quite all the way in, and we walk away feeling unscathed from this experience.
 
Now as we go farther along we again see something, another puddle that looks pretty clean and not very deep. And it seems to be filled with colours and things that really appeal to our senses. So, once again we go ahead, and this time we go fully into it. But this time, we realize, that we are dirty. The colours were oil, dirt. And we try to brush it off, but it is not coming off very well at all. And we feel guilty. We feel ashamed.
 
So we tell ourselves, "From now on, I will not go into that puddle again. And we go home, and we go to bed and forget about the day and rest well.
 
The next day we get up and off we go again. And...well, of course. We see another puddle, but we remember the last time. But, this time we think, well  ya , I should not have done that, but it sure felt good when I did it. We walk around the puddle this time, and we look at it from every angle and after a time we just touch it with our toes. Well, that was not so bad. So off we go again, and again we fully immerse ourselves into the puddle of sin

 
Now we come out again and this time we get upset with ourselves because this time we are filthy with the sin from head to toe. And we try on our own to clean it off, but it sure sticks. We are unable to get rid of it. AS hard as we try, we each and every time go past it, but cannot resist. We continue the cycle of going back to the puddle and continue to get fully immersed in it, and each time we get upset with ourselves for having allowed the temptation to drag us in.

Is  there no way out of this cycle of sin? "O wretched man that I am! who shall deliver me from this body of death?" Rom 7:25

"For that which I do I allow not: for what I would, that do I not; but what I hate, that I do" If then I do that which I would not, I consent unto the law that is good. Now then it is no more I that do it, but sin that dwelleth in me. For I know that in me (that is my flesh),) dwelleth no good thing: for to will is present with me; but how to perform that which is good I find not. For the good that I would I do not; but he evil which I would not, that I do. Now if I do that I would not, it is no more I that do it, but sin that
dwelleth in me. I find then a law, that when I would do good, evil is present with me. For I delight in the law of God after the inward man: But I se another law in my members warring against the law of my mind, and bringing me into the captivity of the law of sin which is in my members. O wretched man that I am! who shall deliver me from the body of this death? I thank God through Jesus Christ our Lord. So then with the mind I myself serve the law of God; but with the flesh the law of sin. There is now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh  but after the Spirit.  Rom. 7:15-8:1

You see,   that is the way of sin and temptation. We wish not to do wrong in our hearts, but because sin dwells in us, we are tempted to sin. But do we have to give in to sin? If we have Christ in us, we no longer need to give in to sin. Because He now lives in us we have His spirit  living in us which we now need to submit to rather than submitting to the will of the flesh. As you read on in Rom. 8 1-13 we are given the truth that we need not walk after the will of the flesh because Christ now lives in us. We walk in sin, more than not, because e like he sin. But, we should not and need not.

When you start a new job, you have a whole set of new rules to follow after to do your job and to work as a team with people. Likewise when you became a Christian, you now have a whole new set of rules to follow after. You should not be following after rules of your past life.

1 Cor. 10:13 tells us; " There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able, but will with the temptation also make a way of escape  that ye may be able to bear it.."

You se,  because you are now a member of the household of God, and now have the Spirit of God abiding in you, you are to no longer follow  after your old ways, but after the new rules, the new ways that He dictates in your heart. And He makes that power available to you to be able to escape any and all temptation, by delivering to you that power to flee temptations with the power that is also in Christ Jesus, who likewise when tempted in the desert by the devil also escaped temptations. How, with the Word of God in each and every situation. Matt. 4:1-11

You to are able to make the devil leave you Matt. 4:11, when you confront him (his temptations) with the Word of God. You get that Word  by studying it. 2 Tim 3:15, but hiding it in your heart Ps. 119:11 and meditating upon it. Ps 1:2 When you do that, it becomes a part of you just as much as your skin is a part of you. You can call upon the Word Of God at Will and use it as as amour, as a weapon to defend yourself against the fiery darts of the devil. Eph. 6: 10-18 and by prayer.

So my friends, I would implore you, encourage you, to make the most of your time with God. Take time out at the beginning of he day as best as you are able, and make lots of one on one time with Him throughout your whole day, studying, meditating, memorizing in His Word and pray in all things. In this way when you come across puddles of sin, you will be able to skirt around and away from them with the Word of God, causing the devil to flee from you and, in this way you will be empowered to resist and flee temptations.

The reason many have problems in overcoming sin, is one  they like their sins, but  when you are a Christian, you struggle because you are not using and believing in the power that already dwells with you. Yes, there is sin dwelling in you. But you need not answer to sin dwelling in you. You need not let it be your master. You need not obey the rules of your past life.

You are now a child of God, whom has given you all that you need to be able to resist the power of sin in your life. Grasp hold of that power. Let it be your master, let Him be your strength to lead you to walk the way He wants and has designed you to walk. Listen now to the new rules now the old rules. You are no longer working for him who is the master of the spirit of the air  but of Him whom is the master and creator of the universe.

When you were are child, you played and obeyed as a child, but now you are a mature man, stop playing in the puddles. Walk no longer in the puddles, but rather walk with Him.

andre


 


 


Brothers,

how many times have we bought satan's lies?

How many false accusations, excuses and doubts did he manage to get through our minds and weaken our faith?

Examples:

- I will never make it. I will forever be gay.
- I didn't really have sex, we just masturbated (or had oral sex and like this we didn't do it "like you do it with a woman")
- I don't act out with others. I just masturbate with fantasies.
- I only do porn - no sexual activities...
- We won't have sex. I am just meeting a gay friend and we will have a cup of coffee together.
- I am just checking that old email account I used in my gay time to see what can be deleted.
- I am just meeting that gay guy, but I won't start something with him.
- I am just going to that gay bar, but I won't have sex there.
- We just kissed and I jacked off, but we didn't have sex.
- I am worth nothing. I still have those thoughts and fantasies.
- I will never be free of same-sex attractions.
- I was born that way. It's not my fault.
- It's the bad childhood I've had. I can't help it if I act out.
- I've tried it all. Nothing works. I've prayed and I still have sex with the guys.

Or my personal favorite (happened last nite to myself):

As you know, I only masturbate without fantasies. Now I've always thought that this is pretty safe and maybe the only biblical way to do "it". Well, that might be the case for some, but what's healthy for them doesn't have to be healthy for me.

And so it was. Well, I didn't really yield to fantasies, but I felt them popping up and trying to get through. And - without going into details - let's just say I really went for it. I "enjoyed" it a lot...

... to find out later on it didn't release my sexual tension but build it up a lot more. I was horny all night and I had one (homo-)erotic dream after the other.

Now I could say I can't help my dreams, but I sure triggered that.

And read my lips: if you give satan the chance to get a foot into the door he WILL do so. Not just maybe, but a 100 %. And when I woke up, I could clearly hear his voice: see - I can still get you with the men. You didn't have a single dream with women...

So I raised up my chin and told him I sure sinned in there, but he will not get me like this. I prayed and read His Word - the best way to give him a black eye.

But the next time I know better...


Rob






 
Erotic dreams

Sometimes it happens that you have one of those erotic dreams - or even a nightmare with memories from your past.

You wake up and you think: I can't believe that happened. You can learn to control your thoughts during daytime, but at night you are defenseless. Totally vulnerable.

That is when the devil tries to get the foot into the door.

I had one of those dreams tonight. I acted out with a man in my dream.
Now it is really important how you react to that and how you feel about it.
I woke up, realized what has happened and started praying. First I told the devil he will not get me like this. He might send me dreams at night when I can do nothing about it, but he won't get me at broad daylight. Also he will not discourage me with that or make me think I can never do it. I can never overcome my same-sex attractions.
I can and I did.
Then I got up and after I took a shower I sat down and started reading His Word - the best remedy against satan's attacks. Then I prayed again.
So - yes, he got me really horny tonight. So what? It was not my fault. I did ask the Lord for forgiveness in case there was some sort of fantasy on my part involved or if I triggered it with something. Honestly, I don't think so, but whatever. But I KNOW I am free - the victory is already won!
Funny that it happened exactly tonight. I met a girl yesterday at that event I was speaking at. She was speaking there, too (she is a nurse and helps women not to abort. She stands in front of hospitals and offers them all kinds of help and assistance). On our ride back with the train we had a good time and got along very well. So I do have hetero feelings and desires in me.
So then the devil tries to convince me that I will forever be "gay".

NO! I WON'T!
Resist the devil and he will flee from you. He won't even call it a fight then.
Don't believe his lies. See them as what they really are: lies.
And hold on to Jesus - whatever happens. Stay in His Word. Temptation has to be in the world, but the Lord also gave us a means to cope with it:
The Bible.

God bless you,

Robert




When Jesus told the woman to "go sin no more'., what did He mean? Did He mean that she would not sin? I don't think so. I think that Jesus was saying don't sin wilfully like you did before. We have sins of omission, we forget to worship god and sins of comission, we cmit sin and know it's wrong. Jesus sets us free from our past sins and asks us as Christians to follow Him .. how often we fail to do this.
Yet to sin and induce another to sin as well compounds the sin (makes the sin worse). To know how to do right and then do wrong is sin. And we fall short of the glory of God, God calls us to be 'holy' as He is holy. Our sin takes us away from God and we break our fellowship with God. Sion destroys our union with God. Of course we can confess our sins to God abd He will forgive us and bleanse us, isan;t that great to know. But we should as the Bible tells us to, "avoid sin", as God understands the ramification of sin in our life.
We must practice our Christian faith. Going to church will do noone any good, unless they are 'born again'. Reading many books may give us knowledge but unless we apply the knowledge gained our reading is in vain, much like our Christianity, ubless we practice it we arestill "without hope and without God' in this world.
Believe me I know that sin is powerful, yet I have founda power greater than sin that has set me free. You also can attain freedom by reading and doing and avoiding all places where you may find sin.

Bill B.




A New Approach on Masturbation

Even Christians are sometimes unsure as to how to handle the subject of masturbation. Is it okay to “go for it”, as long as you don’t do it too often and not with fantasies whatsoever? Some have been told by their doctors to do it else the get prostrate problems.

So how about it?

First: Show me the man that says he has never masturbated in his whole life and I show you a liar. We as men are somehow all in the same boat, so no reason to look down on someone.

Why should there be a problem with masturbation? At least you don’t do “it” for real!

Or do you.

1)    Jesus pointed out to us that it is not just what you do outwardly that matters, but also – and even more so – what is in your heart. This is where it all starts. If you got it wrong in the heart, the rest will follow.
2)    Sexuality was never meant only for personal pleasure. It is directed towards and “other” – some other person. And this other person is supposed to be your spouse. Someone of the opposite sex you are married to in a lifelong covenant. The purpose of marriage is twofold: The procreation of children and the good of the spouses. Masturbation goes against both.
3)    You might think if you don’t fantasize, it is all okay. However, first you go against sexuality being directed to someone else and then you play with fire more than you realize. You might think you release tension like that, but what you really do is to build up tension and be even more aroused afterwards.
4)    The fantasies you develop and the porn you might use will take you to a point where you want to do all of that for real – including the wild stuff. And when the opportunity arises, your resistance will be almost zero.

Two things, however, need to be also dealt with.

First, masturbation is sometimes used as a sort of painkiller. You try to ease pain – mostly emotional pain. Sometimes also to cope with loneliness, anger, being bored, and the like. It does not make the problem go away, but seems to take away the worst part. However, on the long run it makes it worse, because it prevents you from looking out for a real solution.

Then, masturbation is not always used for sexual pleasure. Sometimes you yearn so bad to be with someone you love that masturbation becomes the physical expression of that. It is an almost desperate try to deal with the yearning for that person you cannot have for whatever reason. You try to use that misled physical expression of your affection, which in turn makes the emotional pain even worse on the long run.

Either way – masturbation will keep you in bondage for as long as you don’t realize that Jesus died on the cross to break that bondage.

You are free!!!

Rob

Is it ok?

Guys,

is Masturbation right or wrong?

I have struggled myself a long time with this. I thought it is definitely wrong in a marriage, as your sexuality belongs to your spouse - and vice versa. It is also wrong with fantasies whatsoever - we shouldn't lust after others. But I tended to think that from time to time without fantasies involved it should be alright to "release" tension. The problem with that: first, you don't release tension, you turn yourself on. Then you simply miss the point: sexuality is only acceptable in the context of a monogamous, heterosexual marraige. Every sexual activity aside from that is not ok.

Also it is a myth to believe that we need it. We have conditioned ourselves to it, but we most certainly don't need it.

Should anybody have fallen because of wrong advices on my part, I would like to ask your forgiveness.

Robert

 

 

My Prayers for You

(An Email to A Christian Online-Support Group)


If I were to have but only one breath left in my life knowingly, I believe I would not ask and pray to God for another for myself. But I would pray and ask that He would allow me but a few more breaths to reach out and plead for you my brothers to look to Him with all of your heart, with all of your soul, seeking, searching for Him, to fill you full of the Holy Spirit. That in doing so, you would find the maker of your life, and turn to Him, fully, seeking and desiring the milk of Life, His son Jesus Christ. I would plead that He would give you but a few more breaths so that in that short time, you might repent of your sinful ways, as I have pleaded and prayed for myself many a time.
I have prayed many a time to take the place of some of you, and be condemned to hell rather than seeing you to fall into the pits. I am not worthy of such a task, but if God would but allow it , I would for you. Such is my love for the lost. I am but a servant of His, yet, weak and lowly, a sinner such as you. I do not seek gratitude for my love for others. But what I seek, is what God Himself seeks in others., He wants you to humble yourself and admit, that you are a sinner as I am, in need of a Savior. He want you to surrender all to Him, all your love, all your sins, all your weaknesses, all your cares, all your worries. None of us can carry these burdens alone. We need Him.

If I could, I believe I would hang on the cross for you. And yet I know, I cannot. For only a righteous Lamb as Jesus can accomplish and do that feat. But if I could I would try for you.

I cry many a tear for you all believe or not. I anguish that some are only here for a time and will fall away, as we have seen many a time. And yet we have some, who come as lowly children, who come and believe, and grasp the promises of God, and are transformed into His image. For some it is a quick transformation, for others, it is much slower, not because of their own lack of will, but because of the will of God for His own reason for which we may never understand on this side of eternity. Never-the- less, it is not for us to question why, but to accept and do our best to live for Him.

Until He takes us home to be with Him, I will continue to pray for you all , that he will keep you and hold you and mold you to be the man you were made to be. And until He comes I will plead for you all, and if I can, I will step in to hell for you, if it would be His will.

your other brother from another mother

Using our sexual energies another way…


Who hasn’t struggled with sexual issues in his or her life? Some think it is alright to do (almost) everything and anything that comes to our minds as far as sexual desires are concerned. Really? Resisting impulsive behavior is a sign of maturity and also something that sets human beings apart from other species. For the Jews and Christians (or Jewish believers in Jesus) among us leading a chaste life is something we do out of our love for God. We know that if He tells us to do or not to do something, then not because He likes to boss us around, but because He created us and loves us. Who should know better than Him what is good for us? When a loving father tells His child to do this or not to do that, then because he knows what could happen if the child does not follow the father’s orders. The worst thing that comes to my mind is what we pray for in the Lord’s prayer: “Lead us not into temptation”. This does not mean that God literally leads us into temptation. However, the worst scenario would be that God lets us go our own way, telling us “why, you think you know better and want to go by yourself? Okay, you can do just that!” Sometimes though the Lord seeks us by letting us go. He lets us go our own way so that having to face the consequences that this will bring along might bring us back to Him. Some sort of a last means to save an disobedient child.

Some believe that sexual energy somehow has to find a way to be expressed, else we “explode” (meaning that we “need it”, we need to have orgasm – and be it through masturbation – in order to stay physically and/or mentally healthy.) I am not a doctor and I will not give medical advice, but looking at the many people that live a pure life without having health problems through that – as opposed to the many cases of sexual transmitted diseases coming from an impure life that seeks personal pleasure and the “quick fix” rather than real satisfaction God’s way, I think I need not say more.

So what to do with that sexual energy? It is an erroneous belief that it can and should only be expressed through sexual intercourse or masturbation. Sexuality is not something bad. God has given us sexuality for a reason – for the good of the (heterosexual) spouses and the procreation of children. However, we are also told in the written Word of God that not all are made for marriage (and thus able to physically express their sexual energy through intercourse). Some renounce marriage for the sake of God’s kingdom. There we have the key: Those people express their sexual energies in a godly way: for the sake of God’s kingdom. What does that mean for us? Let’s ask God to show us our call, our vocation in life. He designed each one of us like nobody else on this planet and He did that for a reason. We were given talents that nobody else has and we are supposed to use them much like sexuality in marriage: They should become fruitful and multiply. “Not doing something” or “refraining from doing something” is only part of the deal. It is only a means, not an end, and it certainly does not bring rich fruit if things stay there. Those who renounced marriage for the kingdom of God do not stop to be men and women who have sexual energies. They must not stop there but express them the way God wants them to be expressed: for the sake of God’s kingdom.

Robert

Will He?

Is this the day that the Lord may come calling home His own? Are you prepared? Are you ready for Him to come calling? Will He find you wanting? Will He find you with your fingers sliding through porn on the Internet, your mind wandering in fantasies, your hands in inappropriate places? Will He find you un-prepared for His coming? Will you be ashamed to be seen by Him coming through your door?

Will He find you with your heart prepared to receive Him? Will He?

Andre

 

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When Homosexuality Hits Home: What to Do When a Loved One Says They're Gay [Paperback]
Joe Dallas (Author)
Paperback: 192 pages
Publisher: Harvest House Publishers (July 15, 2004)
Language: English
ISBN-10: 9780736912013
ISBN-13: 978-0736912013
ASIN: 0736912010

Desires in Conflict: Hope for Men Who Struggle with Sexual Identity [Paperback]
Joe Dallas (Author)
Paperback: 256 pages
Publisher: Harvest House Publishers; Upd Sub edition (July 1, 2003)
Language: English
ISBN-10: 9780736912112
ISBN-13: 978-0736912112
ASIN: 0736912118


The Gay Gospel?: How Pro-Gay Advocates Misread the Bible [Paperback]
Joe Dallas (Author)
Paperback: 272 pages
Publisher: Harvest House Publishers; annotated edition edition (February 1, 2007)
Language: English
ISBN-10: 0736918345
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A Strong Delusion [Paperback]
Joe Dallas (Author)
Paperback: 245 pages
Publisher: Harvest House Publishers (September 1996)
Language: English
ISBN-10: 1565074319
ISBN-13: 978-1565074316


The Game Plan: The Men's 30-Day Strategy for Attaining Sexual Integrity [Paperback]
Joe Dallas (Author)
Paperback: 256 pages
Publisher: Thomas Nelson; 1 edition (July 19, 2005)
Language: English
ISBN-10: 0849906334
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The Complete Christian Guide to Understanding Homosexuality: A Biblical and Compassionate Response to Same-Sex Attraction [Paperback]
Joe Dallas (Author), Nancy Heche (Author)
Paperback: 512 pages
Publisher: Harvest House Publishers (July 1, 2010)
Language: English
ISBN-10: 0736925074
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“To be pure, to remain pure, can only come at a price, the price of knowing God and loving him enough to do his will. He will always give us the strength we need to keep purity as something beautiful for God. Purity is the fruit of prayer.”

Blessed Mother Teresa

I tried to quit masturbation, but I can’t! I simply need it!

That’s nonsense. You need it because you keep thinking of it. If you keep on focusing on the things you should not do, you will never be able to overcome them. Get a life! The more your mind and body are busy doing or focusing on other things, the more you will simply “forget” there was a little problem going on.

Sounds too simple? Have a try!

Robert

Remember:

The only reason why people don't find freedom from same-sex attractions is because they don't believe it can be done!

1 Corinthians 6:18-20 New International Version (NIV): "Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies."

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Is Change Possible?

To make it very clear: Yes, the Jason ministry definitely believes that change is possible. We believe in God and His power to change our hearts and minds.

Matthew 19:26 King James Version (KJV):

"26 But Jesus beheld them, and said unto them, With men this is impossible; but with God all things are possible."

"Whoever says that a person with SSA cannot change does not know my God."

Pastor Paul

Was ist das eigentlich, "Homosexualitaet"?

Kurz gesagt, die Tatsache, dass sich jemand überwiegend und über einen längeren Zeitraum hinweg in sexueller und/oder emotionaler Hinsicht zum eigenen Geschlecht hingezogen fühlt. Wir bevorzugen aber den Begriff "gleichgeschlechtliche Neigungen". Zum einen ist der Begriff "Homosexualität" (als eigenständige Form der Sexualität) noch gar nicht so alt. In klinischer Hinsicht konzentriert er sich vor allem auf die sexuelle Anziehung, was jedoch zu kurz gegriffen ist, da man hier die emotionale Zuneigung außer Acht lässt. Zum anderen sind wir als Christen der Überzeugung, dass es nur eine Gott-gegebene Form der Sexualität gibt - und das ist die Heterosexualität. Ja, es gibt Menschen, die - aus welchen Gründen auch immer (und seien sie "genetisch") - gleichgeschlechtlich empfinden, wir sehen dies aber nicht als eine eigenständige Identität, sondern als Teil der Heterosexualität an. Dies bedeutet keine Abwertung von Menschen mit gleichgeschlechtlichen Neigungen oder eine Minder-Bewertung unseres Empfindens - ganz im Gegenteil. Wir sehen uns als Teil von etwas, das größer ist als wir (Gottes heterosexuelle Schöpfung) und sind weder besser noch schlechter als andere Menschen noch sehen wir uns als etwas Besonderes an und blicken auch nicht auf die herab, die ihre gleichgeschlechtlichen Neigungen ausleben. Auch konzentriert sich unser Leben nicht auf unser sexuelles und/oder emotionales Empfinden, sondern auf den, dem wir nachfolgen und der uns eine teuer erkaufte Freiheit geschenkt hat, damit auch wir frei sein können: Jesus Christus.

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The 14 Steps

1. We admitted that we were powerless over our homosexuality and that our emotional lives were unmanageable.

2. We came to believe the love of God, who forgave us and accepted us in spite of all that we are and have done.

3. We learned to see purpose in our suffering, that our failed lives were under God's control, who is able to bring good out of trouble.

4. We came to believe that God had already broken the power of homosexuality and that He could therefore restore our true personhood.

5. We came to perceive that we had accepted a lie about ourselves, an illusion that had trapped us in a false identity.

6. We learned to claim our true reality that as humankind, we are part of God's heterosexual creation and that God calls us to rediscover that identity in Him through Jesus Christ, as our faith perceives Him.

7. We resolved to entrust our lives to our loving God and to live by faith, praising Him for our new unseen identity, confident that it would become visible to us in God's good time.

8. As forgiven people free from condemnation, we made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves, determined to root out fear, hidden hostility, and contempt for the world.

9. We admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs and humbly asked God to remove our defects of character.

10. We willingly made direct amends wherever wise and possible to all people we had harmed.

11. We determined to live no longer in fear of the world, believing that God's victorious control turns all that is against us into our favor, bringing advantage out of sorrow and order from disaster.

12. We determined to mature in our relationships with men and women, learning the meaning of a partnership of equals, seeking neither dominance over people nor servile dependency on them.

13. We sought through confident praying, and the wisdom of Scripture for an ongoing growth in our relationship with God and a humble acceptance of His guidance for our lives.

14. Having had a spiritual awakening, we tried to carry this message to homosexual people with a love that demands nothing and to practice these steps in all our lives' activities, as far as lies within us.

While the Homosexuals Anonymous Fellowship was inspired by the Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous, they are not really an adaptation. Rather, they were created specifically for this Fellowship, and should not be construed otherwise. AA, which is a program concerned only with recovery from alcoholism, and is not in any way affiliated with this Fellowship.

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Homosexuals Anonymous is an international organization dedicated to serving the recovery needs of men and women who struggle with unwanted same sex attraction.

This fellowship of men and women, who through their common spiritual, intellectual and emotional experiences have chosen to help each other live in freedom from homosexuality.

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If you are a person who struggles with unwanted same sex attraction, you are not alone Homosexuals Anonymous and many other related ministries, counselors and therapists provide valuable resources that can be of great use to you.

Remember always that while no one chooses to have same sex attraction, many do choose to diminish and eliminate those feelings of attraction. All people have the right to self determination, the right to choose for themselves the aspects that comprise their identity. Through HA, you will meet many people who see their identity as being rooted in their faith and not in their unwanted desires and behaviors.

If you are a parent, relative or friend of someone who struggles with unwanted same sex attraction, you can find helpful resources they will appreciate.

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Freedom from SSA

Guys,

there are many professionals who are able to scientifically explain to you how to find freedom from same-sex attractions.

I am a simple man so I will try to tell you in simple terms.

Imagine a father who wants to teach his son how to ride a bike. He will not give him a lesson on the functioning of each single part, where it came from and what it is made of. Nor will he lecture on how the human body works and how the mind coordinates things. He loves his sonny and wants him to be able to ride that bike on his own.

Of course, he could let him continue to ride with additional wheels, but this is not what the father wants. Daddy knows that his son will likely fall a couple of times. There will be tears and some pain as well. But as a loving father he buys his son a bike and takes him out to teach him how to ride.

Now the son does not expect a big lesson or a manual to start with. Yes, he might be somewhat scared as he does not know what to expect and how to handle this bike without additional wheels that keep it stable. But he knows that he can fully trust his father. He loves his daddy more than anything - and daddy loves him. So he takes a courageous first step and lets daddy show him how to do it.

Daddy will fist be there all the time to hold his son while he rides. However, step by step he will let him run a little bit on his own.

Sonny will ride this first bits all shaky and insecure, but then again he trusts his daddy, so he manages to do it - sort of.

Sometimes he will fall and have his knee scratched. Tears will roll down his cheek, but daddy will hold him im his arms and encourage him to take another effort.

Day by day little sonny will drive a little longer all by himself, until he finally manages to ride that bike completely alone. Daddy will be so proud of his son and his son will come running into his arms, thanking his beloved daddy for keeping his promise to be there all the time when things were getting rough on him. Daddy told him that he will ride that bike and all his little son had to do is to trust him just enough that he goes for it.

Sometimes all that keeps us from succeeding is the lack of belief that it can be done.

Rob

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