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Posted on December 17, 2016 at 10:40 AM

I find it funny when Christian counselors or people who are involved in pastoral care keep on repeating the "mantra" that you should not give advice to someone, but rather help him or her finding it out themselves while at the same time "guiding" them into exactly the very direction the advice would have gone. This is what people usually refer to as manipulation. To help someone find out things by himself or herself has its place in counseling - as well as an advice has.

Heilung - was ist das überhaupt?

Posted on June 7, 2015 at 6:20 AM

Was kursieren da nicht für Ansichten über Organisationen wie die unsere - zumeist von Menschen, die uns nie kennen gelernt haben.

 

Wir würden therapieren, was nicht als krank gilt, wir treiben Menschen angeblich in psychische Erkrankungen, sind fundamentalistische Christen, verklemmt, radikal, rechts-populistisch, wir hätten es nur selber nicht geschafft, eine befriedigende gleichgeschlechtliche Beziehung aufzubauen, kurz: wir müssen schnellstmöglich aus der Öffentlichkeit zum Wohle derselben verschwinden.

 

Zuallererst: Wir sind eine Seelsorge-Organisation, die (kostenlos!) Selbsthilfegruppen und Einzelgespräche für Menschen mit ungewollten gleichgeschlechtlichen Neigungen, deren Freunde und Familienangehörige und alle sonstigen Interessierten anbietet. Wir betreiben keinerlei Therapie (allerdings befürworten wir das Recht eines jeden Einzelnen zur Wahl einer Therapie mit dem Ziel seiner Wahl) . Auch ist unser Ziel nicht, Menschen von "schwul" zu "hetero" zu bringen. Ein solches Ziel wäre für uns zu kurz gegriffen. Als Christen ist unser Ziel das eines jeden Jüngers Jesu: Heiligkeit. Wir sind aber auch für Menschen anderer Glaubensrichtungen - oder Nicht-Gläubige - offen. Die einzige Bedingung für eine Teilnahme an unserem Programm ist der Wille zur Veränderung (wie die dann aussieht, entscheidet letztendlich der Einzelne). Ohne dem wäre alles weitere sinnlos.

 

Wir arbeiten mit einem 14-Schritte Programm, das teils auf den üblichen 12-Schritte Programmen basiert und für die Bedürfnisse von Menschen mit gleichgeschlechtlichen Neigungen angepasst wurde, teils auf Erfahrungen unserer Gründer. Derartige 12-Schritte Programme sind international anerkannt und werden auch weithin verwendet.

 

Ebenso fließen gängige Instrumente aus der christlichen Seelsorge oder christlichen Programmen mit ein, die bei der Suche nach der eigenen Identität behilflich sind.

 

Alles in allem also nichts Außergewöhnliches oder Verdächtiges.

 

Bei der Entwicklung menschlicher Sexualität spielen viele Faktoren eine Rolle: Gene, die Umwelt, die Erziehung, das Verhältnis zum gleichgeschlechtlichen Elternteil oder zu Gleichaltrigen, Missbrauch und vieles mehr. Die Epigenetik hat mittlerweile herausgestellt, dass die früher oft verwendete Formel, ein Gen würde zwangsweise zu einem Verhalten führen, so nicht haltbar ist. Viele Faktoren spielen bei der Entwicklung von Genen eine Rolle. Ebenso verändert sich unser Gehirn jede Sekunde eines Lebens: Gene werden auf Basis verschiedenster Einflüsse in unterschiedlicher Stärke ausgebildet oder gar rückgebildet, oder es werden aufgrund unseres Verhaltens oder unserer Umweltbedingungen neue Gene begründet (!).

 

Wir sehen Menschen so, wie die Bibel sie sieht: Als untrennbare Einheit von Körper, Seele und Geist. Insofern sehen wir gleichgeschlechtliche Empfindungen nicht einfach als "Krankheit". Das wäre eine unzulässige Reduzierung eines sehr komplexen Sachverhalts. Als Christen wissen wir, dass wir alle gebrochene Menschen sind, die der Gnade Jesu Christi bedürfen.

 

Was wir tun, ist, die Hintergründe dieser Neigungen im Rahmen von Seelsorge und Gruppengesprächen anzugehen: Identitätsfragen, unbefriedigte emotionale, soziale, spirituelle und sonstige Bedürfnisse, das Verhältnis zu Gott, zu Familienangehörigen oder Freunden, eine Sinnfindung im Leben, um nur einiges zu erwähnen.

 

Es gibt also so einiges im Leben von Menschen, was "gebrochen" sein kann und im übertragenen Sinn einer "Heilung" bedarf, ohne dabei einfach nur eine psychische Erkrankung im Sinn zu haben.

 

Kurz und gut verstehen wir unter "Heilung" also die (Wieder-)Herstellung eines ganzheitlich ausgeglichenen Zustandes von Körper, Seele und Geist auf Basis des christlichen Glaubens.

Nature of Ex-Gay Ministries

Posted on May 22, 2015 at 4:35 PM

Shouldn't the ex-gay movement be more than a group of ministries whose leaders wave with psychological titles, meet in secret circles, give wishy-washy press releases that are too slick to be attacked and too weak to provide real help and guidance - and charge money for services that tend to be more something like "low-level psychology" or "wellness with a Christian touch" than substantial physical, psychological and spiritual pastoral care? Sometimes it looks like some of those ministry programs are too weak to cope with the world - and even weaker to offer spiritual guidance. It's not about us and how we feel better. It's not about becoming straight or accepting whatever and whoever one is. It is not about following psychological programs designed by individuals that try to explain the whole world in simple terms. And most of all it is not about cash. It's about holiness. It's all about Him.

Know Your Potential!

Posted on April 20, 2015 at 3:00 PM

You are worth something! Don't let anybody tell you you are a good-for-nothing! Your potential is way beyond what you might possibly imagine! God gave you passions and emotions for a reason. Find out what you are passionate about - and go for it! Don't be scared to accept challenges on the way - they only help you grow. Whatever your life experiences may have been - you are loved so much by God He sent His only Son to die for YOU! Let that love fill your heart, grow in you and bear rich fruit. Pass it on to others. God told Adam it was not good for him to be alone. Neither is it for us. Seek the company of others. Life is not about following somebody else's plans, but the one God has set out for you by the way He designed you! Learning and growing does not simply mean passing on traditions and learning things others experienced by heart (that is how our school system works), but helping light the fire in us that brought forth all cultural and technical development. You are never too old to study and grow, neither do you lack the talent for it. All it takes is for you to fell the love - His love - and accept this adventure called life!

You Need Passion!

Posted on April 20, 2015 at 2:50 PM

Why is the only condition we have on someone who wants to join Homosexuals Anonymous the will to be free? Because without it everything else would be futile. You have to know what you want and you have to really want it. You need a passion to go for your goal, no matter what. If there are no emotions involved and you try to reach a goal simply through a change of cognitive thinking patterns, or because someone else wants you to and you have not the slightest wish to do so, this only become negative stress for you. It is all about how you see and evaluate this goal of being free of same-sex attractions and the way that leads to that. For some it is a drag, a pain in the butt. For others the same tools are an exciting challenge.

Think about it.

Rob

You Need Passion!

Posted on April 20, 2015 at 2:10 PM

Why is the only condition we have on someone who wants to join Homosexuals Anonymous the will to be free? Because without it everything else would be futile. You have to know what you want and you have to really want it. You need a passion to go for your goal, no matter what. If there are no emotions involved and you try to reach a goal simply through a change of cognitive thinking patterns, or because someone else wants you to and you have not the slightest wish to do so, this only become negative stress for you. It is all about how you see and evaluate this goal of being free of same-sex attractions and the way that leads to that. For some it is a drag, a pain in the butt. For others the same tools are an exciting challenge.

Think about it.

Rob

Reparative Therapy of Same-Sex Attractions - Why the Bashing?

Posted on April 8, 2015 at 3:40 PM

It seems to be common to bash reparative therapy of same-sex attractions. Even ex-gay leaders seem to go on a distance - while carefully choosing their words in order not to look like they want to put those down who do it. Yet they do get away from it and somehow I tend to think that they are still under shock of what had happened with and to Exodus and now reject anything and everything Exodus did in order not to be seen in the same light as them. Thus they do not use any of RT's methods and try to stay on the safe side by only using spiritual means.

So how about it - yes or no?

Let's first talk about what it is. Something needs to be "repaired" because it is "broken" or because there is some sort of loss or lack. That can be the lack of love from the same-sex parent in childhood for example. Therapy would now try to fill that lack and meet the legitimate need for same-sex affirmation and love through healthy male bondings. Instead of simply calling same-sex acts sinful, RT tries to work on their causes and help the individuals use their current resources to meet their present needs. Other issues might be the affirmation of exisiting heterosexual tendencies in the individual and working on gender identity issues (like what being a real man is all about - something most men struggle with I'd say).

Both Homosexuals Anonymous and Jason International approves of the underlying ideas and the methods of reparative therapy. That does not mean every therapist who applies them is a good one or that those ideas and/or methods should not be evaluated or improved. Of course they should.

However, we do NOT believe that the mixture of psychology and pastoral care is dangerous per se.

The human being as we see him/her in the Bible is an entity of body, psyche and soul. Each counselor, pastor, priest, or therapist should have at least some basic knowledge of those three. And it exactly that order the counselee needs to be checked - no matter if you do psychotherapy, pastoral care or whatever else. Is there a physical problem (make sure the counselee has a medical check-up!)? Are there emotional, psychological or mental problems or disorders (know some about their causes and symptoms and make sure the counselee gets proper help by a psychotherapist or psychiatrist)? In that context you need to see the indivdual's personal history and family background too. For some personality disorders it takes the unpacking of the past - like through psychoanalysis. Are there spiritual problems? If so which and how can they be addressed?

Those three parts - body, psyche and soul - can never seen separately. They always form one unit. However, you need to find out where the problem lies. If someone has a broken tooth you can pray till you're blue in the face, it would not help. God stressed that point: Adam had the perfect relationship with Him in the beginning, yet God said it was not good for him to be alone and made him a helper.

Even if you only focus on one part (like the spiritual one) you absolutly need to have a basic knowledge of the rest, else you are of little help and end up nowhere fast. You cannot base your programs only on one of those three parts and think this is a valid approach. It would be a very narrow and most likely very unhealthy one, as it could add shame and guilt to the already existing problems (if the counselee still makes no progress and feels like a total failure because you did not see his real problem and he thinks it is his fault).

Both Homosexuals Anonymous and Jason International do not offer psychotherapy. We have support groups and offer free Christian counseling and pastoral care. However, you will find the above ideas approached in our program with information to further help. Our basic concept is to not only look on where the issues are and how to address them best, but also to focus on what resources the individual has now, how he or she can use them best and how to make him or her strong - in all three parts ("resilience"). We are result-oriented, that is also the only condition we have for those who want to take part in our programs is the will to be free. If someone does not have that and only wants to whine and pity himself because he then does not need to take over responsibility and become active, but can stay the focus of attention and get pitied - then he or she better stays at home or leaves our group.

Let's stick with what works and not run for the hills because some fell or gay activists try to force a discussion upon us that is not ours. Don't get chicken and back off. We have a mighty enemy - so we better learn how to get our fists up and fight!

Munich, April 8th 2015

Robert Gollwitzer

Go Out and Make Disciples

Posted on February 8, 2015 at 8:10 AM

We as Christians are called to go and and make disciples. We should never content ourselves just meeting on a weekly basis like a religious club and listening to nicely sounding messages. Going out, however, means going out to those who need the Lord most: The poor, the sick, the lonely, the drug addicts, the hookers, the sexually broken, the gays, the desperate, the criminals, the inmates and many more. That means diving into their (!) waters. Only working on finding new ways to lure people into the Church (building) won't cut the deal. Those people will not even waste a thought on our nicely thought-out programs. If we go to where they are at though, we need to be aware that this is the kingdom of the Prince of the Air. These are highly dangerous waters, even though they offer us the greatest challenge for a rich harves for the Lord. To go there means to prepare - to put on our spiritual armour. Having a daily spiritual structure and surrounding ourselves with good and solid Christians is crucial if we want to face the evil. Then again - there is nothing like that. THIS is what Jesus wants us to do and where he wants us to be at. All the angels in heaven will cheer for each sould saved, for each sheep that finds its way back to the flock! Hallelujah!