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Sexuelle Revolution

Posted on May 30, 2017 at 1:45 PM

In der "sexuellen Revolution" der 60er wurde die traditionelle, christliche Ehe zerstört und durch - nichts - ersetzt. Mittlerweile geht (beinahe) alles - und was noch nicht geht, soll ermölglicht werden. Sexuelle Praktiken und Formen des Zusammenlebens, die - aus gutem Grund! - früher undenkbar waren, sind heute nichts Besonderes mehr. Die Folgen: Kinder, die wechselnde "Eltern" haben, unzählige Familien, die ohne Väter auskommen müssen, "Patchwork-Familien" (zur Erinnerung: eine Patchworkdecke ist eine Decke, die aus Lumpen gemacht wird!), zerbrechende Partnerschaften, zerbrechende Kinderherzen, Kinder, die gar nicht mehr lernen, was es heißt, eine Familie aufzubauen, eine Welt ohne Gott und ohne Werte.

Billige Propaganda

Posted on May 30, 2017 at 1:40 PM

Wenn man sich für die traditionell-christliche, heterosexuelle Familie ausspricht und für das Recht von Menschen mit gleichgeschlechtlichen Neigungen, einen anderen Weg zu wählen als "es einfach zu tun", ist man also ein "Schwulengegner" und "homophob". Das ist einfach nur billige Propaganda und unter meinem Niveau.

A Word to "Ex-Gay Leaders"

Posted on May 19, 2017 at 2:05 PM

Some might not like to hear what I am saying, but it needs to be said. No wonder the ex-gay (or "purity" or whatever you call it)-movement has so little impact on society! Look at its "leaders": They brag with scientific credentials in psychiatry and/or psychology while most have no credentials at all or at best low-level ones. Extremely few really are psychiatrists. Others point out their theological "achievements". It is not an achievement when you were appointed pastor by some small church - which would not be recognized by 99% of Christianity! Others try to make their own name big, forgetting who really set them free. Then you have those who studied theology or whatever else and now claim to be expert on any given field. Most of their "knowledge" comes from stuff they have read somewhere. Finally you have those who travel across the globe and write books about how to find freedom from same-sex attractions, how to look at them from a Christian and scientific point of view, how to deal with them from a political perspective - you get the picture. The "I-know-everything"-types. However, if you look at their private lives things do not look so shiny - they might be divorced or married a divorced partner, which makes their cohabitation a form of adultry no better than any homosexual act.

 

So what am I getting at? That we are all liars and hypocrites?

 

I can't look into someone's heart, so it is not up to me to say that. But! we should stick at what we truly know about and not try to beat the world in areas where it is better than we will ever be. God does not need credentials. Your own life story is worth a whole lot more if you present it - and yourself - authentically! Don't try to brush it up, to make it look better. Don't push your own agenda, but God's.

 

As Doug from Homosexuals Anonymous used to say: "The only thing that keeps us from finding true freedom is the belief that it can be done!"

 

He sometimes told me how they started off in 1976, having no fancy psychology books, but the Bible. Yet to this day I have not met a man with a stronger faith than Dr. Douglas McIntyre, who passed away in 2015.

 

He did not put human science down, but he gave credit where credit was due.

 

Finally, at the end of the day, we need a love bigger than whatever our hearts and bodies held on to so far. A love that can give eternal life.

 

May 19th, 2017

 

Robert Gollwitzer

Director Homosexuals Anonymous

Anger issues?

Posted on April 13, 2017 at 4:55 PM

Have you ever been told you have an "anger issue" - along with some Bible verses to help you to repent? Anger is a completely normal emotion. Nobody (!) does NOT get angry. Jesus got angry. He got so angry He chased the merchants out of the temple. Stop pretending you have no emotions and/or emotions are a bad thing. Emotions have a function in our lives. We have them for a reason. Without emotions, humanity would not even have survived. They protect us, motivate us or prevent us from doing something. Get a life!

You don't need to bring us Jesus!

Posted on April 13, 2017 at 3:00 PM

Yes, we've been gone for so long. We've been outsiders - and still are. "The marginalized" you call us - and you use us to knock off your loving the unlovable off the list. You want to bring Jesus to us hookers, pimps, inmates, gays, drug addicts, homeless and what not. We don't need you to bring us Jesus so you feel better and can tap yourselves on your shoulders. Jesus is already here. Yes, we left our old lives behind, but we are still "we" - and that's alright with God. We went to those nice and fancy church buildings where they all asemble - all those nicely dressed people, some of which we knew too well from their double lives. They "welcome" us, but all the time they let us feel they are something better - and we are not.

Oh, they certainly know how to hide that behind spiritually or wanna-be-psychologically sounding phrases - "You might want to pray about...", "Don't take it personal, but...", "A Christian does not say/wear/do this/does not listen to this music...", "This looks like you're still gay/a hooker/a drug addict/a criminal..." - you get the point.

 

Then you wonder why so many call Christians hypocrite. Because many of you are. We sure don't need churches and Christians like these and we can smell your true attitude a mile away. This is why we feel much better among our own. Yes, we are Christians now - and certainly not worse ones than you are - and this is why our folks love us like we are. No "but" attached. And vice versa. We do not have to look like a middle class American John Doe in his suit and tie to worship the Lord. We dress up for Him - but that might look different than what you know. Who are you to tell us we should pray about our behavior - meaning to say you are standing on your hill, pretending to be God and having all the truth in the world. You are a sinner like the rest of us, not better, not worse.

 

When we follow Jesus, we are dead serious about it. We see you spreading much "wisdom" on facebook and telling everybody what should be done - but when we ask you to join us going out on the street to all those wild places where you find those people Jesus loves so much, you give us a trillion excuses why you cannot come along. Teary-eyed snowflakes, that's what you are. Chicken. Your house is not built on a rock and your seed fell among thorns.

 

So with all of our heart we tell you: Keep on doing whatever you think you should be doing, but leave us and our likes alone. We don't need you. We need Jesus - and we assemble for and with Him and we go to meet Him. Actually, it is pretty easy. He assembled twelve simple men called apostles and told them on the Sermon of the Mount the basics of what a believer in God is all about. This is what we go by.

 

We have two words for you:

 

Bless you.

 

Rob

Ausgaben der LHM für gleichgeschlechtliche Projekte

Posted on February 21, 2017 at 2:00 PM

Ausgaben der Landeshauptstadt München für homosexuelle Projekte, Veranstaltungen und Organisationen laut Auskunft von Frau Dorothee Schiwy (Sozialreferentin) vom 21.02.2017:

 

Förderung durch das Sozialreferat/Amt für soziale Sicherung (rosa Alter): 84.645 EUR

 

Förderung durch das Referat für Gesundheit und Umwelt (Sub e.V.): 14.300 EUR

 

(Angaben pro Jahr. Diese Beträge wurden zumindest seit 2015 unverändert in dieser Höhe bezahlt).

 

Es ist mir unverständlich, weshalb hier besondere sexuelle Neigungen mit einem derart hohen Etat gefördert werden, wenn zugleich Schulen, Altenheime, Krankenhäuser und vieles mehr die Unterstützung weitaus dringender benötigen.

 

Menschen werden gefördert und unterstützt, wenn sie der Förderung und Unterstützung bedürfen. Dabei jedoch besondere Bevölkerungsgruppen wegen ihrer sexuellen Vorlieben hervorzuheben, ist eine Diskriminierung der anderen Bevölkerungsschichten.

 

Ich fordere deshalb eine Einstellung jeglicher finanzieller oder sonstiger Förderung gleichgeschlechtlicher Projekte durch städtische oder staatliche Stellen.

 

München, den 21.02.2017

 

Robert Gollwitzer

www.robert-gollwitzer.com

New Terminology

Posted on December 24, 2016 at 12:40 AM

Sexual Attraction Fluidity Exploration in Therapy (SAFE-T):

Creating a clearer impression of professional therapies that allow for change

Christopher Rosik, Ph.D.

 

During its May 27th, 2016, meeting, the board of the Alliance

for Therapeutic Choice and Scientific Integrity (ATCSI) voted unanimously to endorse new terminology that more accurately and effectively represents the work of Alliance therapists who see clients with unwanted same-sex attractions. The board has come to

believe that terms such as reorientation therapy, conversion therapy, and even sexual orientation change efforts (SOCE) are no longer scientifically or politically tenable. Among the many reasons the board felt it time to retire these older terms as much as possible were the following:

1. These terms imply that categorical change (from exclusive SSA to exclusive OSA) is the goal. This is a degree of change that is

statistically rare and not demanded of any other psychological experience as a condition of legitimate psychological care.

2. The current terms imply there is a specific and exotic form of therapy that is being conducted (not standard therapeutic modalities)

3. These terms imply that sexual orientation is an actual entity (i.e., the terms all reify sexual orientation as immutable).

4. The terms imply that change is the therapist’s goal and not that of the clients (i.e., it’s coercive rather than self-determined).

5. These terms (especially SOCE) do not differentiate between professional conducted psychotherapy and religious or other forms of counseling practice.

6. These terms have been demonized and/or developed by professionals completely unsympathetic to therapies that allow for change in same-sex attractions and behaviors.

 

This means that Alliance clinicians are immediately on the defensive as soon as they reference their therapeutic work in these terms.

For all these reasons and more, first the Alliance Executive Committee and then the Alliance Board discussed potential new terminology and finally settled upon the name "Sexual Attraction Fluidity Exploration in Therapy" (the acronym of which is SAFE-T). The Board believes this term has many advantages that commend its usage. First, it addresses all of the concerns noted above. It does not imply that categorical change is the goal and in so doing

create unrealistic expectations for many clients. Nor does it imply that change which is less than categorical in nature cannot be meaningful and satisfying to clients. It also makes clear that

SAFE can occur in any number of mainstream therapeutic modalities. Furthermore, by focusing on sexual attractions it avoids the implicit assertion that orientation changes or that orientation as

an immutable reality even exists. By stressing therapeutic exploration, the new term accurately conveys that the therapist is not being coercive but merely assisting individuals in a client-centered examination of their sexual attractions. The Board also appreciated the fact that the acronym SAFE-T immediately challenges portrayals of the professional therapy utilized by

Alliance clinicians as harmful.

Scientifically, the fluidity of sexual orientation (and, for our purposes, especially same-sex attractions) for many women and men is now beyond question (Diamond & Rosky, 2016; Katz-Wise, 2015; Katz-Wise & Hyde, 2015). The language of SAFE-T highlights this reality and points to human experience that cannot be denied, again without the complicating focus on orientation. The only counterarguments to SAFE-T on fluidity grounds might be that therapy-assisted fluidity has not been proven to occur and such efforts could be harmful. These arguments are much easier to defend against with SAFE-T than when one is trying to defend implications of complete orientation change. First, we know that sexual attraction fluidity occurs in response to relational and environmental contexts, the very factors that therapists routinely

address in their work (Manley, Diamond, & van Anders, 2015).

Second, there is research in progress to support the occurr

ence of therapy-assisted sexual attraction fluidity (Santero,

Whitehead, & Ballesteros, 2016; Pela & Nicolosi, 2016), not to mention a rich history of past research, as good as any research of its era (Phelan, Whitehead, & Sutton, 2009). Finally, recent research on “ex-ex-gays” (e.g., Bradshaw, Dehlin, Crowell, & Bradshaw, 2015; Flentje, Heck, & Cochran, 2013) tells us no more about SAFE-T than research focused on divorced consumers of

marital therapy would tell us about its safety and efficacy. While it

is reasonable to conclude that more research is needed to better comprehend the extent of therapy-assisted sexual attraction

fluidity, denying the potential for such a therapeutic process

would seem to be much more a matter of ideological compulsion than it is one of theoretical or scientific implausibility.

Due to all of these important considerations, the ATSCI Board encourages Alliance members and supporters to join them in employing the terminology of SAFE-T in their professional work. One might say, for example, “I practice a cognitive form of SAFE-T” or “I practice SAFE-T from an interpersonal perspective” or “There is no scientific basis for banning any form of SAFE-T” or even “I don’t do SOCE, I only practice SAFE-T.” Because this term

represents what Alliance clinicians actually do in a scientifically accurate and defensible manner, the Board anticipates that the professional interests of these therapists and the public policy

interests of supporters will be much better served by SAFE-T.

 

References

Bradshaw, K., Dehlin, J. P., Crowell, K. A., & Bradshaw, W. S. (2014).

Sexual orientation change efforts through psychotherapy for LGBQ individuals affiliated with the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints.

Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy.

Advance online publication. doi: 10.1080/0092623X.2014.915907

Diamond, L. M., & Rosky, C. (2016). Scrutinizing immutability: Research on sexual orientation and its role in U. S. legal advocacy for the rights of sexual minorities.

The Journal of Sex Research. Advance online publication. doi: 10:1080/00224499.2016.1139665

Flentje, A., Heck, N. C., Cochran, B. N. (2013). Sexual reorientation therapy interventions: Perspectives of ex-ex-gay individuals.

Journal of Gay & Lesbian Mental Health, 17, 256-277. doi: 10.1080/19359705.2013.773268.

Katz-Wise, S. L. (2015). Sexual fluidity in young adult women and men: Associations with sexual orientation and sexual identity development.

Psychology & Sexuality, 6, 189-208.

doi: 10.1080/19419899.2013.876445

Katz-Wise, S. L., & Hyde, J. S. (2015). Sexual fluidity and related attitudes and beliefs among young adults with a same-gender orientation.

Archives of Sexual Behavior, 44, 1459-1470. doi: 10.1007/s10508-

014-0420-1

Manley, M. H., Diamond, L. M., & van Anders, S. M. (2015). Polyamory, monoamory, and sexual fluidity: A longitudinal study of identity and sexual trajectories.

Psychology of Sexual Orientation and Gender Diversity, 2, 168-180.

doi: 10.1037/sgd0000107

Pela, C., & Nicolosi, J. (2016, March).

Clinical outcomes for same-sex attraction distress: Well-being and change.

Paper presented at the Christian Association for Psychological

Studies conference, Pasadena, CA.

Phelan, J. E., Whitehead, N., & Sutton, P. M. (2009). What the research shows: NARTH’s response to the APA claims on homosexuality.

Journal of Human Sexuality, 1, 5-118.

Retrieved from , http://www.scribd.com/doc/115507777/Journal-of-

Human-Sexuality-Vol-1

Santero, P. L., Whitehead, N. E., & Ballesteros, D. (2016).

Effects of Therapy on U.S. Men who have Unwanted Same Sex Attraction. Manuscript submitted for publication.

Wieviel Ausgaben für Schwule?

Posted on December 20, 2016 at 10:15 AM

Wie kommt es, dass einem niemand im Münchner Rathaus oder von den dortigen Parteien genau sagen kann, wieviel dort Jahr für Jahr für welche schwul-lesbischen Projekte, Organisationen ausgegeben wird? Ich bin Münchner und musste teils mehrmals nachfragen, bevor ich überhaupt eine (ausweichende) Antwort bekommen habe. Fakt ist: das weiß entweder niemand oder will niemand sagen. Zu einer Anfrage im Stadtrat ist auch keiner zu bewegen. Sollte der Haushalt nicht in allen Details online für alle verfügbar sein? Dort findet man zwar Angaben über einzelne Ausgaben, nirgendwo aber das Gesamt-Paket. Möglicherweise aus gutem Grund?

Advice

Posted on December 17, 2016 at 10:40 AM

I find it funny when Christian counselors or people who are involved in pastoral care keep on repeating the "mantra" that you should not give advice to someone, but rather help him or her finding it out themselves while at the same time "guiding" them into exactly the very direction the advice would have gone. This is what people usually refer to as manipulation. To help someone find out things by himself or herself has its place in counseling - as well as an advice has.

Exchanging one sin for another

Posted on December 7, 2016 at 5:50 AM

For those among us who found freedom and married a beautiful wife or husband: Praise the Lord! Those, however, who married a divorced partner did not find freedom, they simply exchanged one sin for another. If you love your partner, you want the best for him/her - and the best is always the best in God's eyes. You loose all of your credibility when you keep on talking about ex-gay stuff while continuing to live in another sinfuld live. Most of all, you do not do us (and yourself) a favor with that - quite on the contrary. And please stop justifying that with your own personal view of the Bible that happens to meet your lifestyle. This is exactly what gay Christians do.


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